FTP so unsure whether to post here or under AIBU...
We are first time parents so trying to work out if our nursery is being unreasonable or not. Our son is 8 months old.
DS has had an ongoing cough/snuffly breathing for nearly two months now, which was tentatively diagnosed by his GP as bronchiolitis around mid-Nov (he was also put onto a week's course of antibiotics as a precaution, and we were prescribed an inhaler which we have been using at home at the start and end of the day). The GP said at the time that any virus DS had picked up would be past the contagious stage by then so there was no problem in continuing to send to nursery.
Last week DS had a bad 'crash' where he coughed violently, went purple, and had the paramedics called in while I was running back from work (having been called by then). We then took him to hospital where he stayed overnight to stabilise his breathing and oxygen. We were told it was still bronchiolitis, that it was probably he'd picked up a new virus on top of the tail-end of a previous one (hence the crash), and that unfortunately this is fairly normal for this time of year. (we're also not entirely happy with the handover on the previous day's pickup, as the manager is now claiming DS was worse that day than was actually reported to me and they were surprised he was even sent in the day of the crash).
DS is now thankfully much better, has been assessed by a GP again and passed as fit to return to nursery. However, one of the 'treatments' we've been told to use to ease his congestion is saline drops/spray, particularly before feeds. We've been repeatedly told this both by the initial GP who diagnosed him back in November and by the hospital itself last week (this was even written into DS's discharge notes). I can also see this is official NHS advice online, and it does seem to have made a difference to relieving his congestion.
BUT the nursery are flat out refusing to administer DS with saline drops unless it is under prescription (which the GP, understandably, thinks is stupid and won't prescribe for). Furthermore, they are refusing to take him back until we can tell them that his breathing/condition remains stable for a full day's worth without saline drops. This means that we are having to take extra time off work to look after an essentially 'non-sick' child ourselves despite continuing to pay the nursery for this.
When asked for an explanation about the 'no drops' policy, the manager explained that they had to have this rule because otherwise parents would be sending in all sorts of non-prescription/'quack' remedies for the carers to administer. However, given that saline drops (unlike other remedies) have been actively recommended by both individual NHS practitioners and the NHS general guidance it is hardly a 'quack' remedy. Furthermore, the same nursery is happy to administer Calpol and infant Nurofen as long as they have signed parental consent, so I cannot see why saline drops cannot be added to the same small list of 'approved' non-prescription drugs.
Is this normal and/or reasonable? We are both very frustrated but not sure how much effort to put into arguing with the nursery on this point (bearing in mind that refusing to administer drops could mean DS becoming worse under their care/us being called out/more time at home off work etc. etc.)