Nursery/focus help.

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My 3 year old started nursery in September, his birthday is August. He's always been a bit on the hyper/difficult side but the last 6 months or so I'd say he's improves 10 fold and rarely argues back and pretty much does as he's told. Anyway, it was his parents evening last night and I feel so shitty about it. They didn't have one positive comment. It was he doesn't listen, he doesn't sit still, we have to sit with him to get him to stay still when he has too, he likes to do what he was and takes a lot of encouragement to do the specified tasks. They went on about how he can't draw lines or circles...they were fixated on this and the fact he can't (he can) he was write his fucking name for christ sake but there wasn't a single mention of that, they didnt have a single positive to say. I feel like it's broke me. Everyone else has said how positive it was and how proud they are and I'm just like yeahh... That's nice. I even tried today after nursery to get a positive comment by asking his teacher what he'd done today and she just said "hmmm" like literally wtf! Anyway, now my rant is over, does anyone have any advice for what I can do at home to help him at nursery? How can I teach him to focus more etc? Thanks in advance xx

Sounds like the nursery is the problem.

They don't understand or motivate him.

Why be so negative?

He's 3. How much sitting still and foucussing should he be doing? I agree it's a nursery problem

It’s the nursery
I teach nursery and we do a 10 minute teaching activity a day
I keep it short and use lots of songs and silly voices to keep their interest
We then have a couple of storytimes spread throughout the day no longer than 5-10 minutes
3 year olds are not built for sitting still
I plan my teaching to take the children’s interests and needs into account
Can you change nurseries?

If I can help it I don't really want to change nursery, most of his friends that hes grown up with go there. Obviously if things don't chsnce soon I will. I'm catching the teacher everyday to ask how it's going, hoping that I'll get something positive back. It so upsetting. Even the naughtiest of kids have redeeming qualities and I know George has a lot! But it feels like they're not acknowledged by his nursery. The other morning one of his friends was upset so he went to her saying "aw ill cheer you up" I thought it was really sweet. His teacher was stood right there and just said to his friend "go and look after George" it annoyed me much more than it should have because he doesn't need looking after, he went over to be nice! You could see in his face too it bothered him. 😔.

You’re at the sharp end of political trends in education.

State schooling, in essence, requires a supply of docile, "school ready" children who will sit down, shut up and do what they’re told.

Providers of early years childcare/education are increasingly expected by Ofsted to produce such children. Some in government actually want all children to be in school (sitting down, shutting up and doing what they are told) at two years of age.

Unfortunately, politicians and educators believe this is what parents want, because parents are unwittingly part of a feedback loop about what constitutes the best for children and society. eg You want your child to go to a Good/Outstanding nursery, yes? But they’re only going to achieve a Good/Outstanding grade if they can demonstrate that they are pushing this "school readiness" agenda really hard.

Its the wrong nursery for him, you just need somewhere more child centred. Neither of my boys would sit still for long at 3.

All of my dc would have “failed” in that nursery! Your little one will quickly make new friends in a better environment, get him out of there ASAP.