Worried about DD not being involved?

[ListenLinda]

Hi everyone, I hope this is the right place to post this.

It's just a little concern of mine but I need to know if I am being unreasonable (but not enough for AIBU haha) or whether I should genuinely enquire?

DD (18 months) has been at her nursery for 6 months now and every time she comes home they tell me she has been great, how much she has eaten etc, they usually post pictures on their facebook page of what they have been up to for events that they have been doing, for example Halloween, Diwali etc.
I've noticed that it is always the same children in the photos and DD never is, which is making me wonder if she is actually joining in on these activities. If she isn't, where is she then? What is she doing?

Would you ask if she does join in? Or raise a query at all? My stomach just churns when I think she is missing out and don't know whether i'm just being an overprotective first time Mum. My friend has issues with her little girls nursery where she basically being left to play unsupervised and it's just set off a niggling feeling that I can't shake.

Thanks for reading!

Just ask. It might be that there are a few children that always jump in front of the camera, or maybe you haven't signed a photo permission form?

I'm sure they'll be happy to talk to you. My DD has left school now and I don't think she ever made it onto the website. She did do a lot though.

My first thought was whether you've signed the consent form for photos? Have a chat with her keyworker, see what they say? At ds' nursery, if I mentioned this I'm sure they'd pop a few pictures of him on their page now and again. Not all nurseries are crap

Next time they post a photo just ask on the post if your child took part as there are no photos

Thanks guys i did ask :) apparently she has been napping through these activities!

As it’s not like the other kiddies are just more prominent, she literally isn’t in the group photos either.

So we’ve agreed that they will work to either try keep her awake during either the morning or afternoon activity, as she does tend to drop either her morning or afternoon nap at home so it’s not a case of that she can’t.

I’m not good at stuff like this but reasoned that i’m actually perfectly in my right to ask haha.

My son (22m) never really bothered with the other kids and didn't want to be involved in any messy play but he loves the teachers. I have a flexi space so have picked him up at many different times and he always looks happy enough. They don't really play together properly for another wee while anyway. It's much easier when they are chatting properly and can tell you what they were up to that day (or my sons fave topic- what he has had to eat that day)

Maybe nursery tires her out more than being at home? She's still one, can you not let her nap if she clearly wants/needs it?

There's plenty of time for activities when she's got a bit more stamina.