Nursery- end of session handover/chat

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Hi

My lo started nursery a few of weeks ago. I'm unsure about the amount of feedback I should be getting at the end of each session.
Most times I pick him up they generally just say 'Yeh he's been fine. He's had a good day' and that's it. No comment of what he's done, how much lunch or snack he's had or any other general observations such as going to the toilet.
They use tapestry and update it with one or two observations as week but I don't really find it tells me how he's actually settling in, just that he did a bit of drawing.

We found out a week ago my lb had been holding going for wee from 8-1pm!! They didn't realise so I had to mention it.

At the end of each session there are always other parents around so I understand there are time constraints in how much the staff can talk to me about my little boy.
How much feedback do you get after each session?
I don't feel like they have an awful lot time in the mornings either to discuss concerns etc.

I never expected anything other than to be told a brief "She's been fine" or if she hadn't been fine.

Why would they tell you everything they'd eaten? They have a lot of children.

I assume that your DS is 3? Babies might require a more detailed feedback but I thought it was usually done in a book?

The holding wee is bad though...bad.

I suppose we've been a bit spoilt with a childminder who would tell us all about his day.

I get that nursery have many more children to deal with but u don't think it's unreasonable to know what my child is eating for a snack as they provide it.
There line is that it's the children's responsibility to tell us about their day but I find my son doesn't really discuss things and gets confused with what he's done.
The toilet thing annoyed me. He's done really well potty training and he told us nursery didn't have a toilet so we assume that they didn't show him where it was. Luckily he is now going ok.

I don't know I just assumed as the key worker had only a small amount of children to look out for they would notice these things or have a bit more to say.

Snacks in nursery are generally the same thing daily....fruit/bread. Did they tell you what they normally eat when you enrolled him?

I can't believe the poor little thing wasn't shown the toilet! That's a BIG red flag if you ask me.

How is his keyworker in general? not very friendly?

If you are want to know then just ask!
It's because you're not asking that they are not telling you about snacks at

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to expect a bit more. My DS goes to a private nursery 4 days a week and at the end of every day I am told (from a chart they keep every day): what he ate for breakfast, lunch and tea (they tell me if he ate all of it/most of it/a bit etc), when he slept and for how long, and toileting. When he was in nappies they would say how many wet and dirty - now he’s toilet trained they don’t tell me exactly how many wees etc but if he’s had any accidents and if he’s done a poo. I also get a little report of what they’ve done that day. I’d be disappointed too with just a “she’s been fine”.

In preschool room I usually mention a key activity they enjoyed that day and anything I’d noticed that isn’t usual for the child. If a parent wants more detail in a particular area they generally ask or we know it’s something that child needs monitoring with ie a fussy eater.

A good key worker should notice that a child is not using the toilet ( although they would have also.shown them where the toilet is!) They would also tell you what learning has taken place , in brief and also.they would get to know.your expecrions, whether you want to know what they eaten, slept etc.... as some like to know 'chicken, poop and sleep' whilst others.....not so much

*typo..... expectations