2 years old does not want to go to nursery

[Ana1978]

He started the nursery more than a year ago , 3 day a week and the situation became worse, I can not take him out of home and always late to work.If I am lucky after an hour I manage to put him in the pushchair by playing a cartoon on my mobile and get a taxi .Now he started to talk and he becomes more upset and cries hysterically when the taxi is near the nursery and tell me to not take him there.I started to tell him a story and prepare him for his nursery but today he told naughty naughty Thomas(one of his classmate) and no no name of one the nursery staff.(he is using naughty naughty a lot these days, he did not hear it from us)In my area , all the nurseries are full then It s not easy to change the nursery. We are going to sit with his key worker, strangely he never says her name .

What about a childminder? He might suit a smaller setting and a bond with just one adult.

Hi
Thanks for your reply.I prefer nursery, need to know childminder , I can not trust, maybe when he can talk and communicate but he is learning 3 languages at the same time and can not communicate very well.Do you think changing nursery or childminder is more stressful than being in here?or I ask the nursery change his key worker?Or take a break from work?

If you are working you just have to get him there. Maybe start the day earlier so there is buffer time for any issues. Don't engage in reasoning or discussion, it is a "we are getting ready now", "shoes on" etc as upbeat as you can manage. Do you have a husband or partner who could share the drop offs? Has his behaviour changed recently, maybe changed room, group, keyworker etc which has unsettled.

Hi LIZS

Thanks,we have another big problem, the days he is in the nursery ,he just has one hour nap but he is not tired in the evening,last night he wanted to go out at 11 PM and slept at 12.Other day with me he has lots of activities(swimming ,football) and no nap and he sleeps at 8.He does not want to go with my husband and because my husband job is contract, I let him go to work, if it is late.My son takes out all his cloths, does not allow me to put cloths.He is very happy boy with me and in the nursery he is playing and Ok as far as I know.

I would speak to the nursery. Is he settled and happy after you leave, or is he unhappy when he’s there?

Hi he is Ok ,they say he stops crying.I am going to have a meeting with the key worker as he is very upset in the morning and every one knows he is nor happy.