Hello fellow mummies, first post here. Need your advice please!
So my son who is 16 months old has been going to this nursery 2 days a week for 3 months now. There have been a few little things in the past few weeks that I’m not 100% happy about but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or they’re truly concerns that require my action. I would really like to hear what you all think.
So first when my husband and I were away I emailed the nursery to tell them my mum will pick my son up in our absence. But instead my mother in law decided she wanted to do it and told my mum not to go. As the two mums are actually really good friends so my mum was not bothered. What surprised me was that the nursery did let my mother in law pick my son up although it was not in my instruction. In fairness my mother in law had been in the nursery with my mum before so the nursery knew it was his grandma.
A couple days ago the nursery called me saying my son was crying none stop for 30 minutes so it’d be best if I came to get him home. When I asked why he was crying they said no we have no idea. He just started crying for no reason. So I went. His little eyes were red from crying but when we got home he was completely fine, not hungry, not in pain and napped well afterwards apart from not wanting to go upstairs. I know the nursery has a bigger babies’ room upstairs where they put kids older than 16 months in if the baby room downstairs gets too busy. So I wonder if they tried to put my son upstairs which upset him. So one day later when I picked him up I just asked if he was upstairs they said YES. So obviously that was the reason that he was crying. I am OK with him crying but I’d prefer the nursery told me the truth and kept me updated if they were going to put him in a different room. Clearly he got upset when they tried to move him out of the room where his friends were. And I’m sure the nursery was fully aware of this but instead they told me they had no idea why my son was crying for such a long time.
Other things like my friend whose son is in the same nursery told me that she saw my son crying but the nursery told me he didn't in the settling-in period. I understand the nursery might just try to make it easier for me but again I’d rather them being honest.
So I’m a bit confused at the moment. Are these things common in a nursery? Am I overreacting to think of changing the nursery? My worry is that my son would have to go through another round of settling-in which he’s not very good at. And if this kind of things happen everywhere then I’m just putting him through difficulty for no reason. Many thanks for your advice/thoughts in advance!