Has nursery changed your baby's behaviour...?

[WindUpBird]

My dd (almost 12 months) has been in nursery now for 3 weeks for 2 days a week. I know she hasn't settled in yet as she still cries when I leave but I just wonder if I am doing 'lasting damage' by putting her in nursery! I've noticed slight changes in her behaviour - suddenly throwing things around her, putting hands in her plate of food and shouting....all very little things but it seems she's frustrated/angry and I don't know if this is a developmental/personality thing or a result of being in nursery. I know there is no way of knowing I just wondered if anyone had experience of their dcs personalities 'changing' as a result of being in nursery...Tell me I'm paranoid!

Yes and no - my DS has been in nursey for 4 weeks now. He's having problems with sleeping but thats probably due to routine changes and other factors. Have noticed that he suddenly seems to have learned new things like giving you objects and placing things on and in. He's had a few what seem to be tantrums - last night in chucked his dummy to the floor with real force as though he was really cross. Hard to tell whether its development/tiredness/nursey thing.

i think they copy what other kids do. my dd1 didnt start till 2 yo but even started making faces she'd never made before and crying in different ways and with different expressions that seemed copied to me...They are suddenly surrounded by lots of other kids and new influences or ways of behaving.
i do think that one is early to start but if you've no choice and have to work the family as a whole will be better off than if she was at home with you and you were stressed financially...

WUB, my ds changed in positive ways after starting nursery at 9.5 months. He became more relaxed around new people and less dependent on me, and more adventurous with his food. He has also started showing more of a temper, but I put that down to him getting more independent and knowing what he wants, rather than any bad effect of nursery. I'm sure it's the same with your dd. Sounds to me like this is just an expression of your own very understandable anxiety over putting her in nursery, and no you aren't doing her lasting damage!

Thanks for the posts You're right, she does seem to be having more tantrums and have more of a temper. Suddenly she seems to need to be told 'no' about a few things which I haven't had to do before. And I've definitely been VERY anxious/upset about putting her in nursery, though obviously not in front of dd.