Is just the one day enough???

[missi1]

Really dont know what to do about this one.hmm.
DD has been attending nursery since July last year for the 1 day.(Mum has her the other day)
Everything was going really well until around 6 weeks ago.
Every week that i've picked her up her key worker has mentioned how upset shes been/ not eaten all day/not her self/quiet etc, etc!!
This just dosent sound like her at all.Its getting to the point when i dread picking her up.
Today when i went to collect her she was sitting on her own over in the section where they keep the really tiny tots.Shes 13 months old!.
When i asked why is she sectioned of from the older kids i was told that she seems happier on her own and isnt as stressed when the other kids are around!.
I felt so upset to see her playing on her own away from the group.
The whole idea of nursery was to help develop her social skills etc.
Is it time to look at a childminder instead??
Cant really afford to up another day either.
Sorry to go on!

Hi Missi, sorry to hear that you're having problems with nursery.

I think that until children are a bit older they tend to do "parallel play" - ie they do their own stuff regardless of what the baby next to them is doing so from you DD's point of view it wouldn't make that much difference if she was with the tiny tots for a bit. It's worse for you than it is for her.

Have you thought about making an appointment to go in and have a chat with the manager - preferably on a day that you aren't picking up DD maybe leave DD with your mum? It sounds as though they need to give some extra time and attention to her.

Will prob end up doing this.It just feels that they never have anything positive to say about her day!.

Hi i'm sorry to hear this iv'e worked in nurseries even tho maybe only for one day, children do tend to generally get on, she been there since July, that's quite along time, surely she be settled. I'm a nursery assistant yeh they will do their things at their own pace but i try to encourage the children to play together even if it's just 1 other child, that mb they cud bond with. Also I wouldn't just leave her sitting there, bless her, I would interact with the child myself or just be with her so at least she had some company, someone to play with, even if it is a staff member. What's she going to achieve sitting all alone on her own. Good luck