Nursery won't talk about DD to DH

[MotherCrazyCat]

DD is at a private day Nursery 3 days per week. I work locally in a care home as a housekeeper. DH works variable shifts so often isn't available for pickup and drop off at Nursery but tries to do it as much as possible,

Whenever there's a problem with DD the Nursery call me or ask to speak to me at pick up time. If DH answers the phone they always ask to speak to me, if I'm not in/available they'll call back later to speak to me. If DH does pick up they never say anything to him if there's a problem but instead call me or wait until the next time I'm at the Nursery and discuss it with me.

DH is DDs father, is listed on her birth certificate which they've seen, he lives with us and we got married before DD started Nursery.

I thought it was just a thing about dads as all the staff are female, but I saw the dad of another girl from DDs room called into the office earlier today and it got me thinking about why they won't talk about DD to DH.

I'd say he does pickup/drop off the same amount as the other dads (1-2 times a week, apart from one dad who does it everytime). I'd not be concerned if one of DDs GPs was doing a regular dropoff/pick up but this is her dad who she sees/gets along well with. The nursery manager has told me they have no concerns/problems about DH so I don't understand why they won't discuss her with him. I did go to school with two of the staff members and the managers son so I did wonder if they feel more comfortable with me, but that shouldn't really matter should it?

Anyone any idea why this might be? And what I can do about it? DH feels like so much less of DDs parent than I do already and this attitude from the Nursery isn't helping.

I'll add apart from this I'm 100% happy with the nursery and they've tried hard to help her progress with her needs, so I'd not remove her purely because of this.

[insancerre]

I wonder if your dh has given them the impression that he has to consult you/ talk to you and they have just decided to cut out the middle man
I find that some dad's do this
They say, " don't ask me, ask mum" so we have to take that at face value