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Legal advice re nursery

15 replies

MissHappy1 · 22/09/2016 18:28

Hi ladies,
Are nurseries allowed to accept children even for introduction sessions without the consent of the other parent? If the other parent declared that they don't give consent and the nursery still allows the child to attend, what are the consequences?
Many thanks in advance

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somekindofmother · 22/09/2016 18:34

I would think so. my oh never went to ds1s nursery nor was he required to sign any forms.
not sure what would happen if you went to the nursery and said it tho

Sirzy · 22/09/2016 18:35

As long as one of the parents has given consent then I don't see why not.

Any disagreement would be between the parents.

Willow2016 · 22/09/2016 20:14

I only need one parents signature on my contracts and other paperwork to make the contract legal, I suspect its the same for all childcare. I have rarely had 2 parents at a meeting as one is usually working.

It would be pretty difficult to have 2 parents attend nursery to sign paperwork if one was on mat leave/looking after toddler/planning to go back to work and other was always at work during nursery hours.

I think as long as the child isnt being harmed in any way the parent who has the child during that time can do what they want.

Is there a particular reason a parent doesnt want child to go to nursery?

HSMMaCM · 22/09/2016 20:45

I prefer to meet both parents and get both signatures, but it doesn't always happen.

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MissHappy1 · 22/09/2016 21:28

parente are in court for the judge to decide on which nursery for the child to go to? the nursery that one parent chose doesn't care that the other parent has declared to them that they don't give their consent until after the court has decided. Isn't the nursery here doing something wrong?!

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LittleBearPad · 22/09/2016 21:33

parente are in court for the judge to decide on which nursery for the child to go to?

Really? That's completely absurd. Poor, poor child.

No the nursery hasn't done anything wrong. I imagine they can't believe how badly the parents are behaving.

TeaBelle · 22/09/2016 21:36

Only 1 consent needed. Attending is not going to harm the child so it's a bit daft, even if they later move

RitchyBestingFace · 22/09/2016 21:38

I don't think the problem is with the nursery here.

readyforno2 · 22/09/2016 21:41

This can't be true. There has to be more to it?

No, of course the nursery isn't at fault. How would they even know there was an issue?

FuzzyOwl · 22/09/2016 21:42

Poor child having all of this going on.

Only one parent with parental responsibility is required. The nursery is clearly aware of the court hearing so they would be in the wrong if they continue to accept the child if the court rules against it. However, that decision hasn't been made yet.

SoHereItIs2016 · 22/09/2016 21:42

This is the first of what will be hundreds/ thousands of decisions the parents will need to reach some agreement on during the child's life, do they plan to take each and every one to court?

WhatWouldCoachBombayDo · 22/09/2016 21:46

Perhaps the parents should grow the fuck up and start acting like adults, if they cant compromise/decide about nursery, I really feel for the poor child growing up in the middle of this mess!!

Nursery have done nothing wrong they only require one parents consent, if anything it's probably a calm and educating environment for the child, whilst his/her parents squabble!

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 22/09/2016 21:49

No, legally they need the consent of one person with parental responsibility. That's all. The only way to stop the nursery being able to take the child would be to get a court order prohibiting it. That's unlikely to go well - it's unnecessary and disturbs the child far more than necessary. It will reflect badly on that parent, too, as it starts to look like the court system is being misused.

insancerre · 23/09/2016 19:57

We ask on our forms who has legal responsibility and the form only needs to be signed by one parent who has legal responsibility
We ask for the birth certificate to ascertain this

GreyKittyMakesWarms · 24/09/2016 17:10

DDs nursery only needed my signature but encouraged DH to come to the viewing and do some settling in sessions with her. He ended up having to sign a few forms as well as they lost the originals and I was working when he dropped DD off, but it's unusual I think for both parents to need to consent.

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