parents staying with child at nursery

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My son is at nursery. One of the other children is not settling and the parent is there with the child All the time(every morning mon-fri,9 till 12). This has been going on since the child started and said child should have gone up to the next class but has been held back.As staff have to be checked before they start work with children should this be allowed.The parent has now started to comment on my childs behaviour when i go to collect and seems to take a great interest in my son. I have mentions this to the teacher but nothing has change. Surely that parent should not be taking an active roll in playing with the outer children their. I am starting to feeling uncomfortable with this. Advice please!!

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It's abit odd granted! Can you talk to the management of the nursery?

Is this a private nursery or nursery class as part of starting the school education system? If private nursery surely it would defeat the object of paying for care for your child whilst you need to be elsewhere??

its a nursery class as part of the school education system

Weird. Child is never going to settle if she wont leave. Your child is none of her concern. Ask nursery if she has been checked.

Its part of the start of school education system. I just do not want to have to get a bit cross with them about this. Also it's the father who is staying. He has been there for about 6 months

I have spoken to the teacher in charge

Oh, that's a bit strange then. It's not something that would be permitted at our school- I had a crb check for helping out with kerb craft training. And the teachers actively encourage parents to leave to enable the child to learn to settle.

Does the child perhaps have special needs you're unaware of? There may be a perfectly valid reason for the parent to stay that hasn't been communicated with other parents.

I'm sure you could manage to sort it without getting cross with them. Just ask for a quiet word with the teacher (ask to pre book a ten minute apt for pick up time one day, so it's not a rushed trying not to be overheard chat). Outline your concerns that you don't like another parent taking such an interest in your child, that you don't feel their presence is appropriate, and why are they there/ have they had relevant checks.

Of course there may be a perfectly valid reason why they're there, even if the teacher is unable to tell you what the reason is, but it might at least reduce your concern.

We had a similar situation at our preschool. Mother had huge separation anxieties and refused to be parted from son. It was tolerated for a while - they had been refferred to us by social services - in the hope we could wean her from his side (she totally smothered the poor kid) and at least get her into a different room from him. It didn't work though and we had to end the placement as she would just not leave him even for 5 minutes and it wasn't fair on him, or appropriate to the setting, to have her as a permenant fixture in the nursery.

Its very weird and very inappropriate of her to be commenting on other children. I would talk to the nursery again.
Why is SN always the answer on mn? Parents don't go to school with their children with SEN.