Settling in going horribly wrong WWYD ?

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Help!
We are trying to settle my DS (2 y 3 m) into a new nursery.
He has been at another nursery since six months old so I stupidly embarked on it feeling fairly confident it would be ok.
It has so far been a disaster - 5 settling sessions and he is still pretty much crying constantly and although he was supposed to be there for a whole day today DH didn't even leave him this morning as he was so upset. ( and no staff really helping us)
The new nursery is visibly under pressure and have admitted they have lost some key staff so are recruiting and relying on temps.
They don't have the capacity to spend time getting to know my little boy - I was even asked to stay with him last week due to 'the ratios'.
I feel torn - we have pulled him out of a fabulous place for practical reasons mainly as DD starts school right by the new nursery.

What do I do - do I stick with them or do I just take the view that if the start has been this bad I need to look at alternatives?
Is this normal ?
I feel like I have made such a bad decision ..

Can you put him back in other one as it hasn't been long?

If you were assured the staff ratio would be sorted sharpish and he'd have a key worker/one-on-one contact for the settling in period then I'd be more willing to stick it out, but it sounds like a bad start without much prospect of an immediate fix.

I think I'd pull him and try elsewhere. Tough one though as he'll probably be slow to settle no matter where he is now. But at least if you found a place where a key worker could win him over and look out for him then he'd thaw and have more chance of relaxing and getting used to the new environment...

oh my, that sounds awful. I almost wish i hadn't clicked on this thread now as we're about to move my 2yr old to a new nursery from the one he started at 6mo because we moved house three months ago and the commute is causing me real grief with work. like you, i thought he'd be fine with a change of scene after 18mo at another nursery.

do you really love this new nursery or is it just that it's convenient? I looked at two that were convenient enough and chose the slightly less easy but still do-able one, mainly on gut feeling... (though that is how i chose the last one too).

are there any other options for you? any other nurseries near-ish to your DDs school?

also, was he already in the 2-3yr room at his old nursery? Is it just bigger and more boisterous in general? could he spend a few weeks in the younger room first? (i'm guessing not if they're short staffed).

Thanks for the replies and reassurance that this is bad and I am not over reacting.
It has been so stressful.

Yes I have considered reverting back to the old nursery but we have made the change now because it will be a nightmare drop and pick up with old nursery involving a car journey and DD starting school close to home - which might become impossible when DH starts a new job in the next couple of months.
Emotionally though this would be easiest as I know he would be happy.

Diggum yes these are good points. He would have moved up this term so I suspect there would have been a bit of a settling in period but to be honest he used to play with the older children in the garden and knows all the staff so I think it would have been ok.
There are some three year old boys in the new nursery room who were pushing and shouting which definitely spooked him - but to be honest it's the other question you asked that probably bothers me most - I have had no reassurance that this isnt the normal standard really - so that's a big worry!
The stupid thing is that my instinct wasn't good when I visited but I sent DH and he thought it was ok - maybe we convinced ourselves because logistically it made sense.
museumum don't worry the more I think about it I feel it was a bad choice - you have followed your instinct and will have a better time.

DH is there with him now but I think we will have a chat about other alternatives tonight.
The only other walking distance one is probably going to be full.
Wondering about childminders too.

Thanks again