Nursery settling in advice - pls help!

[carolinep1]

Dear all

I am new! My DD is 6 months old and I am due back at work 4 days per week end Oct.

I had a childminder arranged and started settling in sessions in Sept, however, CM backed out after about 8 sessions because DD was interuppting her DS's routine. Have to say that DD wasn't happy there anyway. She is a quite clingy baby and cried a lot whilst there.

anyway, I got her a place in a nice nursery, expecting her to kick off during settling in sessions but so far she has been fine.

Except for - feeding time. I went with her today, settled her in the baby room and went into another room while they fed her. She ended up hysterical, nearly being sick. I have noticed she is like this if strangers try to feed her.

Any advice would be appreciated, this is heartbreaking!

Thanks in advance Caroline

Does she let other family members feed her? E.g. your mother, MIL, etc.? If so then maybe you should feed her at nursery for a while until she doesn't see the staff there as strangers any more?

Or you could move over to a more baby led weaning style where she feeds herself finger foods or handfuls of stuff -- do you think she'd be happier with that?

Hiya

Thanks for the reply. She lets my sister, my son and his girlfriend feed her - it looks like its anybody else!

I've arranged to go to nursery with her next week once at breakfast, once at lunch and once at tea. Think I will feed her the first two times then see if she lets her keyworker feed her. Like the sound of the baby led weaning tho, might look into this.

xx

There are a bunch of threads on here about it -- look in the Weaning section.

And not MN isn't so mattress cover-obsessed you'll probably find more people popping in with advice.

i think BLW could be the answer to your prayers!

great thyat she is happy with all other aspects of the nursery.

I dont think u should be worried about this to much, she will settle with the feeding at the nursery at some stage. My DS was like this when he started becuase he didnt like there routine of doing things & it tookk him nearly 2 weeks before he started eating well at the nursery. You should look on the positive side that at least she is otherwise happy. I know this is a really difficult time for u & u will get through it

Is she drinking her milk OK at nursery?

Given her age - (i.e. that milk is still likely to be a large part of her diet) - I'd tell the staff to be very laid back with the issue. if she doesn't like it, just let her sit in her chair and dabble with food.