Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Nurseries

Find nursery advice from other Mumsnetters on our Nursery forum. For more guidance on early years development, sign up for Mumsnet Ages & Stages emails.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

Oh ruddy NORA

29 replies

FrannyandZooey · 20/09/2006 22:02

I have been really happy with ds's nursery and he has settled in beautifully. The manager told me this week that on a Wed afternoon there would only be him and one other child attending (it is v small quiet nursery), which I thought was great as ds has a very busy day on Wed and I thought the extra attention would be perfect for him.

However today we went and there is a new member of staff and the other child is her son. In theory the manager is there working as well but when I came to pick up ds she was on the phone so ds was with the new member of staff and her son, I suspect it will be like that most times.

I don't feel particularly over the moon about this. I know there is bugger all I can do about it, but I wanted to moan. I feel so disappointed - I like this nursery a lot and we had just got settled in and everything was going beautifully. I don't feel comfortable with it now. Oh bother

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Original poster

FrannyandZooey · 20/09/2006 22:07

Is this the wrong time of night to tak nurseries? Are you all too busy laughing at Richard Hammond?

OP posts:

florenceuk · 20/09/2006 22:08

Sorry I can't see why it would be a big problem. I've only ever used childminders and nannies with their own children (as they are cheaper!) and they have all been fine - they don't appear to especially favour their own little one, and all the kids generally get on very well. IMO if they are a good carer, the presence of their own child doesn't reduce the quality of care. Do you really think your DS will get less attention than otherwise?

HuwEdwards · 20/09/2006 22:10

I read it F&Z, but didn't respond at first because unless your DS was upset or being ignored, I just couldn't see the issue. But am an old hand at nurseries so felt I should just bow out.

But then came back

misdee · 20/09/2006 22:10

errrr i cant see the problem myself.

not laughing at RH at all.

Original poster

FrannyandZooey · 20/09/2006 22:14

Fair enough.

Sorry about the RH thing which I can see sounds rather combative, that was just a flippant remark, I don't actually know who he is but saw some jokes about his funeral earlier

OP posts:

moondog · 20/09/2006 22:16

What's the problem F&Z.
Wouldn't you enjoy having a little person around to play with your child and enjoy the three way action??

annh · 21/09/2006 09:51

Why on earth is this a problem?

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 21/09/2006 09:55

I would be thinking along the lines of her son (the nursery nurses) getting / daminding more attention from his 'mom' or that because they know each other well and have a bond already that my son would feel pushed / left out, Or that her son (nursery nurses) would be favoured over mine, stuff like that.

threebob · 21/09/2006 10:03

What would you like her to do with her son F&Z - send him to another nursery?

I genuinely don't get why you are so disappointed.

Marina · 21/09/2006 10:07

Agree with the others really. Childcare workers with children need daycare too.
I would assume that as a qualified nursery nurse the employee would not be tempted to ignore my child and focus on her own.

HappyMumof2 · 21/09/2006 10:11

Message withdrawn

bundle · 21/09/2006 10:15

we have had one childcare worker at our nursery who had her son at nursery. we chose to move her into a different room, to avoid any potential conflicts of interest (eg I do this at home..don't see why i can't do it here)

Original poster

FrannyandZooey · 21/09/2006 12:45

Hey that's great, don't bother waiting for me to explain what I think the problem is, just storm in and decide I am being unreasonable. Thanks, I feel loads better now.

OP posts:

Jimjams2 · 21/09/2006 12:48

so what is the problem?

lunavix · 21/09/2006 12:51

Is the problem that both people (staff and child) in with your ds are totally new? He doesn't know either, and they don't know the 'ropes' so to speak? I'd find that unsettling in your situation.

aitch71 · 21/09/2006 12:54

I totally see why you'd be a bit gutted by this, Franny. Of course nursery nurses need childcare, and of course the most sensible place would be in the place where she works, but if Franny wanted her son to spend time with another mum and her boy then she might have chosen a childminder rather than a nursery.
It's a bit of a 'gulp' moment cos you don't know how it will work out. It'll probably be absoultely fine, you know... your son will probably behave better for her as her own child will be sick of being disciplined by her. Frankly i'd have thought for that reason that she would prefer to have him taught by a colleague while she does another age group.
i don't think there would be any harm in you expressing that to the nursery manager. not a complaint, just a 'is there any reason why you're not swapping the teachers over?' kinda thing.

Jimjams2 · 21/09/2006 12:57

It's a nursery though, the kids enrolled into each session will change regularly. By next week their might be 5 children in that session, by Xmas there might be two.

Staff change as well (although in a good nursery not too often).

Twiglett · 21/09/2006 12:58

what are you worried about?

HappyMumof2 · 21/09/2006 13:13

Message withdrawn

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 21/09/2006 13:49

Franny I was being very understanding

oliveoil · 21/09/2006 13:55

Is this just for the Weds afternoon? What happens on the other days he goes?

codwiggle · 21/09/2006 13:57

no prob here

codwiggle · 21/09/2006 13:57

kinda agree that you can tpick adn choose other kids at nursery
sorry

beckybrastraps · 21/09/2006 14:02

Not sure why you're in a strop. You posted three times before your "Hey that's great, don't bother waiting for me to explain what I think the problem is, just storm in and decide I am being unreasonable" comment. I though you HAD explained what the problem was.

Actually, I think what would worry me slightly was that there were only two children and one carer, rather than any relationship between carer and the other child.

eefs · 21/09/2006 14:05

I think the RH comments are out of line

Flip

1 2