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Went back to work three weeks ago. Already had to pick DD up 3x for 'bugs'.

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Tiredemma · 27/03/2014 14:56

I expected it to happen- but I haven't done a full week yet without having to go and collect her.

Does this phase generally last long? Ill get the sack at this rate!

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JeanSeberg · 27/03/2014 15:46

It's stressful isn't it? Do you have anyone else who could help you out and take time off when she's sick?

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Tiredemma · 27/03/2014 16:14

No- there is nobody. My mum lives too far away and doesn't drive.

Its stressful and frustrating. Hoping she gets some decent immune system soon!

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JeanSeberg · 27/03/2014 16:19

I hope you at least have a supportive boss, at least that will relieve some of the stress if you feel that they understand.

Depending on what you do, could you arrange flexible working so that you make up time at home in the evenings and weekends to preserve your annual leave?

Onesleeptillwembley · 27/03/2014 16:22

Have you no partner or friends? What about her dad? It's his responsibility too.

Onesleeptillwembley · 27/03/2014 16:22

Sorry. Meant to say partner, or friends that could step in?

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Tiredemma · 27/03/2014 17:09

Dp took a day off with her last week but is working away today/tonight but due back at 11am tomorrow- he will then stay at home and ill go into work (Friday is normally my day off).

I have friends but they all work so none that can be called upon for emergency childcare.

My Line Manager has been great- but I am concerned about the message I am sending to my staff ( I am a manager in NHS)- if I have to keep going off halfway through the day.

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Nevercan · 27/03/2014 17:14

What sort of bugs has she had?

JeanSeberg · 27/03/2014 17:15

I took it to mean you had no partner when you said there was no one.

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Tiredemma · 27/03/2014 18:28

No- sorry. I meant 'we' have no other help.

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saffstel · 27/03/2014 18:37

It's such a nightmare, 6 weeks for us and dd2 has had a cold basically the whole time! Now on a course of antibiotics !!

JeanSeberg · 27/03/2014 18:43

Ok, as long as he's doing 50/50 share OP. Wink

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Tiredemma · 27/03/2014 18:47

Well- he doesnt get up at night!! So he isnt completely brilliant!

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tallulah · 27/03/2014 19:09

I was like this for the first few months of going back to work. I despaired of ever getting through a full week.

It does stop. Since DD has been at school she has only had a few odd days sick in 3 years.

JeanSeberg · 27/03/2014 19:51

Ha ha I meant doing his share of time off work.

LyndaCartersBigPants · 27/03/2014 20:59

And now you're working too he should be helping at night as well!

Poosnu · 27/03/2014 21:06

It lasted a couple of months for us, then gradually tailed off. It was very stressful but passes.

JRsandCoffee · 31/03/2014 12:02

Just to say you have my sympathy, mine started in January and it seems to have been a loooooong winter. They tell me it will stop, hope that is soon!!! xx

Arohaitis · 31/03/2014 12:11

I sympathise
we did end up moving one of our kids because we were convinced the nursery would pick one (or more if needed) to send home when they needed to even out their numbers.

there were other reasons to be fair but that was one of them

(don't think they were ever sent home unwell from the new nursery!!)

Coveredinweetabix · 31/03/2014 12:27

Yes, it does pass but the attitude of the nursery matters too. If its after about 3pm & your child is just looking a bit peaky or is very tired, then they will call you to tell you but don't ask you to come & pick up immediately although I always do what I can to get there earlier but wouldn't, for example, cancel a meeting to get there. They also give calpol. Obviously if there's vomit involved you have to get there as soon as. This is very different to the other nursery in town which doesn't give calpol & you are called & asked to collect as soon as your DC has a slightly raised temperature.

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Tiredemma · 01/04/2014 19:14

covered that is what my DD's nursery is like-

They dont give calpol and called me out of work because her temp was 37.8- I told them that I was a nurse and not at all concerned with a slightly spiked temp - fell on deaf ears

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Takesalongtime · 01/04/2014 22:11

As a cm I often have children who are not 100% but need calpol & extra cuddles. Ob not with sickness but if just snotty cold etc then I keep them. As a mum myself I know how hard it is to get time off

mammadiggingdeep · 02/04/2014 20:50

I've had my 2 dc in nursery for a year...only ever had a few calls to let me know they're giving calpol for raided temp, which them brought it down. I've never been called to ask to collect.

I don't think I'd be impressed with the set up you describe. Why won't they give calpol with parents signed permission?

mrscog · 03/04/2014 17:32

When DS started nursery last year he was ill (as was I) pretty much non stop for 8 weeks, and then nothing since. Just bear with it and it will improve.

abracadabra2011 · 05/04/2014 21:35

temp was 37.8- I told them that I was a nurse and not at all concerned with a slightly spiked temp

Thought about adoption? Your little ones health and wellbeing should be your primary responsibility.

Twighlightsparkle · 05/04/2014 21:40

Is the nursery making sure children are off for the required time when I'll, 48 hrs for vomiting etc? My daughter when at a private nursery was always ill, the nursery didn't want to argue with parents and loose business by not taking them. I ended up removing my daughter because of it.

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