Nursery didn't notice DD1 had a raging temperature - AIBU?

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DD1 was ill at the weekend so I kept her off nursery on Monday and she was fine all day so I took her to nursery yesterday. When I picked her up she was boiling hot and very sweaty so I took her temp as soon as I got home and it was 39.2.

I'm so bloody angry with them as I had specifically asked them to keep an eye on her and that I was around all day if she seemed ill at all.

In all fairness I know it was hot and that her sweating could have been mistaken for her reaction to the weather but she was so hot to the touch that it really should have indicated to them it was not normal.

Am about to call them to have a beef at them but just need a bit of the old Am I Being Unreasonable response from MN'ers as hate confrontation and want to be armed to the teeth in case they don't munch on the huge slice of humble pie that I think they should do.

hang on, she was hot and sweaty but did she seem ill?

hot and sweaty in this weather is not much clue and I'd probably forgive them, but hot and sweaty and cross, irritable, whining, off food etc should have been noticed.

She was totally hyper - singing one minute, then crying for no reason the next.

How was she in herself when you collected her. A hot sweaty child in this weather, had she been running round with all the others, would have just seemed normal to me. If she didn't seem ill and you had sent her thinking that she was fine, then I would have thought she was just hot hot.

Not a nursery worker though.

Sounds like my toddler and any normal day so I can see why the Nursery wouldn't jump to the conclusion she was ill.
To be honest I think I would be a bit upset if I has specifically asked them to watch out for anything not normal for her but kids can be up and down when ill so it is not always that easy to tell unless a child complains of pain etc...
How old is your daughter?

It's the fact I asked them specifically that annoys me. I felt she was bettER BECAUSE SHE HDN'T HAD A TEMP FOR 24 HOURS AND SEEMed (oops - she's got the caps lock there!) fine but because of the heat I wanted them to keep a closer eye just in case.

she's 22 mo.

Oh she is younger tahn I thought. Too young really to say if she feels unwell so I would expect a Nursery to pick up on certain signs. Are they allowed to take her temp?

Yes they are - and to give calpol etc.

I think I'd be inclined to give them a very pointed "she won't be in today because her temp was x and she was ill WHEN I COLLECTED HER yesterday", but not a "why didn't you spot this?!?!" conversation.

I think I'll take that route Flamesparrow - I really feel I need to make my point to them. Am off to do it now!

T

They should have been checking if she felt hot, every now and then, especially as she had been ill and you had asked them keep an eye on them.

I would be very very angry as ds gets febrile convulsions. He has had 3 convulsion and his temperature was between 38.5-39 before each.

How would they explain themselves if this had happened to your dd!!

"singing one minute, then crying for no reason the next" Clear indiction that she was unwell.

Why use the softly softly approach with them? You pay them to look after your dd and while she is in their care they are 100% responisble for her health/well being. What if this had been a child that is predisposed to convulsions?

Personally, I would talk to the manager and tell her that you are concerned that it wasn't spotted. You might be saving some other mother some heartache. How can they improve their service if nobody ever stands up to them?

Rant over.

I spoke to the manager and expressed my concern and she said that she would look into it. Not much more I could say. She was sympathetic and apologetic.