moving rooms issue

[mia1972]

Hello all,

I hope someone can advice on this. I am furious with my son's nursery.

LO is currently 18 months and in the baby room at our nursery, it's a small room with 6 kids and they all got quite close and friendly.

I was told that in january they were all moving to the toddler room together. I picked him up on Thursday and out of the blue the manager says that, actually he is not moving up, as they don't have space.

So everyone else is moving up apart from my little one because they don't have space (could they not tell me before) and that he only learned to walk recently and not very confident (?). Instead he is going to be kept in a room with children much much younger than him.

I felt that this is really unfair and I am not happy with this decision. I don't think that he is going to have the right type of stimulation like this.
Yet at the same time I worry about making a formal complaint in the place where I leave my child all day...

Can somebody advice me on this ?

Thanks in advance

They should not move up all but one child. Bad practise.

I expect that not all the babis are moving up, they must have some younger than your son.
It could be for a variety of reasons that they ave made this decision.
They could have decided after a couple of visits to the toddler room that he is in fact, not quite ready for teh move.
Which is no biggie, as all children dvelop at different rates. There really is no point in pushing him to be ready for the bigger room if he isn't quite there et. if he is unsteady, then he probably just needs a few more weeks before he is ready to move up.
Have they given any indication of when they will move him?
he really won't be missing out, he will still get the care and attention he needs, whatever room he is in.
the other reason is that they may have had a child sart recently who needs the space in the toddler room more, they might be slightly older or be full-time, or the nursery may have decided it is better to start a new child in the toddler room, rather than start them in the baby room and then move thm after a couple of months.
Tbh, I expect a child in the baby room to be more attached to his adult carers than any other children he spends time with.
Maybe have a word with the manager again if you are still unclear about when he is moving. But don't forget the manager will ahve the needs of all the children in mind when decisions are made, not just your child.

Thanks a lot to you both. Insancerre, they said that they won't have a place in the toddler room for another 3 months, which makes me think he is going to be less stimulated...and 3 months it's actually quite a long time for a baby / toddler. But I guess there is very little I can do. I have booked an appointment with the manager to get to the bottom of this. I realise that he might be more attached to the workers than to the actual babies but I was hoping he would be kept with the other children - which incidentally are all younger and some of them don't walk either. It feels very much a decision that suits the nursery, probably for financial reasons.
Thanks again

I think from what you've said it is a decision that suits the nursery.

We had the same with DD1 but she was moved up a room and I didn't think she was ready. I bowed to them as "professionals" and the fact that they said all her friends were going and she'd be left out.

Months later we are still having HUGE issue with her settling. To the point that I am going to look at other nurseries next week.

In short, listen to your instincts. If you think he is ready to move, insist on it. You are paying the nursery. The ratios/finances are their problem. I wish I'd done this.

Sounds to me like they planned to move him and then another child/parent has come in from outside that will take that place in the toddler room, hence his staying behind a little while ...

My DS's nursery moved him in September (he's 2.5), spent ages taking him for little visits, getting him used to the staff and the room. There are 2 rooms per age group and I was v pleased with the one he was put in as the other always seemed subdued, the room not as comfortable, the women in there didn't interact much (walked past that room every day so often able to look in, though I know that's a very tiny part of the day). Anyway due to staffing (I think) they often merge the two rooms during the day into the bigger uncomfortable room and I'm really annoyed they haven't even explained why, how long it'll last. He loves when we go into 'his' room, gets very upset when I have to drop him at the 'other' room. But do I say anything? (Sorry to hijack OP).

My dd's old nursery did this. Eventually (there were other issues) we changed nurseries.