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PLEASE HELP! what \how can i stop\ help ds getting bullied in nursery

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trace2 · 21/04/2006 09:00

it started last year from 2.5 have paid for ds to go to nursery 5 days a week, he used to go in the afternoons, 5 days a week, but he was coming home saying some one was hurting him, in time we know who was doing it, we did tell his teachers time and time again.
so we asked for him to go to mornings because of it, so in sept they found him a place, but the shock on my face in sept first day back, there was the sAME CHILD, i asked why he had been moved too as if i would have know i would have kept ds in the afternoons!, they didnt know how to answer, and there was no places left in the aftnnons now.
within a week ds was getting the same as befor , naughty, crying not wanting to do any thing, when on the 4th day back putting ds in the bath when he had this massive bite on his back, we took photos took to nursery, and they did get the mother in, she herself came and said sorry it wont happen again.

well since then we have been in loads of times telling them whats happened every day, all i get his they pklay together what can we do?, last night sat down talked to ds he told us he plays with him, because he dont hurt him as much as when i dont play with him.
he also tells other kids not to play with him.
WHYWONT the nursery do any thing, its bracking mine and dh heart, no idea what to do, ds has to go to big school with him soon, and its already scaring him. going in again this morning to explAIN HOW DS FEELS.

sorry its long just dont know what to do, i said we should take ds out but, theres no other nurserys with places, and he does enjoy going

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Tortington · 21/04/2006 11:14

the other child should be made to move

dinosaure · 21/04/2006 11:31

tbh it sounds as if it would be in the other child's interests to move to a better nursery - it was definitely the making of my DS1

sarahhal · 21/04/2006 12:07

Hope you can get him moved Trace - we have always been so so happy with WO. In fact, not sure if I said when we met up, but we did actually take him away for a a couple of months as a nursery was built in the grounds of my school so it was so much more convenient - but we soon sent him back as I was so much happier there. There is such a lovely family feel to it and the owner and staff are lovely. Plus they have also just had an excellent OFSTED inspection.

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trace2 · 21/04/2006 15:55

sarahhal, i have two family members who work there so yes i do hope he can go

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JenJam · 21/04/2006 21:44

it breaks my heart to hear this. how about fixing a meeting with the mother and the nursery and getting some proper answers on how to manage this situation, as it needs to be addressed properly now

mumtoone · 23/04/2006 15:32

It does sound like this situation has gone on too long. I would book a meeting with the manager of the nursery and discuss how they plan to deal with the problem. A few bites and scratches are to be expected at nursery but this sounds like a problem that has gone well beyond that and the staff should be well aware of it.

sarahhal · 24/04/2006 16:18

Any further with this one trace?

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trace2 · 24/04/2006 18:38

hi everyone, ds is to a diffrent nursery, they phoned today with the newsGrin, did take ds round to show him he likes it.

sarahhal, its the same one as your ds. only know we have to tell other tomorrow, dont think there gona like it

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sarahhal · 25/04/2006 08:32

That's great news for your DS! I hope he's happier at his new nursery. We go Wed and Thurs so I'll look out for you!

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trace2 · 25/04/2006 08:50

ok can not start till monday next week,Sad and the other nursery says he can not go there now weve told them, went yesterday to have a look, i was very impressed with what they do.

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sweetbean · 25/04/2006 08:59

trace2
i haven't had time to read all teh comments but i agree with soapbox pull him out!!!!! i know that you feel that he would be missing out on nursery while you find him a new placment but i think that this kind of enviroment CAN'T be good for his self esteem! i can remember being bullied from a very early age and it has stayed with throughout my life so my advise would be to take him out. also his the school are being so lax about this what else are thay failing to adhear to ??????????? GOOD LUCK i hope that everything works out for you xx

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trace2 · 25/04/2006 09:04

i have this morning, and i want to say a big thank you to every who posted, i feel like a weight as been lifted of me, and it feels rightGrin

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trace2 · 27/04/2006 08:27

the new nursery as let him start yesterday, i had to stop all day, he said he liked.

didnt want me to leave this morning, i feel like ive made a mistake, i know i havent but i feel so helpless, becuse we have had to move him from his other freinds

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amber5 · 29/04/2006 13:12

trace - hope this is wokring out ok for you. On a slightly selfish note - I live in your area (you're around Barnsley i believe?) and would be much reassured to know where you are talking about. Of course you can't say on here, but hopefully we'll meet on a 'meet-up'sometime and you can let me know.
we've met up recently and are planning another to be on a friday next month...

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trace2 · 29/04/2006 19:16

hi amber, yes i would like to meet too, i was thinking of coming to canan hall last week, but with all this i couldnt face going

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amber5 · 29/04/2006 22:34

how's your ds settling into the new nursery now, how many days has he done? hope it's going better for you both. i know from Sarah that she's happy with the place.

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trace2 · 30/04/2006 11:48

hes ok, he realy likes it

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sarahhal · 02/05/2006 09:26

Glad to hear he's settling in Trace, I'd been wondering how he was. Does he go every day? We were hoping to meet up again on a Friday and with older ones this time, so maybe you could join us?

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trace2 · 02/05/2006 10:17

where you meeting? yes he goes every day

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sarahhal · 02/05/2006 10:58

Not sure yet, will try to start a new thread!!

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