Nursery induction, should I be happy with this?

[Booboostoo]

Apologies for the lengthy post.

DD is 19mo and PFB, so I need to ask whether this is OK or whether I should reconsider her starting nursery.

She started nursery last week, she went for half an hour on Thursday and half an hour on Friday. We live in France and it appears that all nurseries (at least all the ones near us) have the same induction policy: parents leave the child for a short period, which is gradually increased. There is no option of staying with your child.

DD also goes to the ludotheque (kind of toy library, not sure if these exist in the UK), with me. At the ludo she is happy to play with the toys, follows other children around, and can leave my side with no problems (although I have to remain near by).

DP dropped her off at the nursery, she cried when the assistant picked her up adn DP left, but stopped not too long after that. She stayed attached to the assistant and did not play with the toys. Since starting at the nursery she has started crying when we ask her to come to the car, so she might be associating it with the nursery.

Am I being totally PFB worrying about this? Should I just let her get on with it? Or is this too soon for her to be going to nursery (there is no urgency to sending her to nursery, she would only go for 1 or 2 mornings a week for socialisation and to get her more used to be with other people - I am SAHM with no family nearby so DD is a bit attached to me!)?

Sounds normal to me. Ime (20+ years as a nursery nurse) children settle better and quicker if the parents don't stay for too long.
It wil take her longer than a wek to settle in, so be patient and keep being positive when you drop her off.
I'm sure she will settle eventually.

Many thanks! I shall try to supress my PFB impulses! Back she goes on Monday then!

Sounds very normal to me.

She is happy at the Ludo, because you are there. Keep going ofr a while, if it continues then think again, but don't give up yet.

Thank you! The plan is to try another half hour on Monday and maybe an hour on Tuesday...I shall do my best to survive it! !

Little update: things went much better today. She cried a tiny bit when leaving my DP but then was more confident and played with toys. The nursery staff feel she is doing very well, especially for a child with a timid character, so I feel a lot better now. :)

Thank you for your reassurance!