I am in a full panic mode and probably am overreacting so would really appreciate an opinion from the outside. My son started a nursery 3 weeks ago. He is not quite 3 and is the youngest in the group. When I was looking around the nursery I told them upfront that he is not yet potty trained (he lost interest in the middle of a major upheaval this year - illness, death in the family and moving houses twice) and that he doesn't speak English a lot but understands everything. They seemed to be ok with it and we agreed with the manager that we can restart potty training once he is settled in the nursery. The first couple of weeks they were increasing his hours and today was his first full day. He skips and runs to the nursery but I am becoming increasingly uneasy with their handling of practical matters. They don't change his nappy, first time the reason being that they weren't pull ups (they were) and today they haven't changed his nappy once but took him to a toilet a few times. When I came he was sitting reading a book in somebody else's thin cotton hoodie in which he spent 1.5 hours outside with just a light Tshirt underneath. His warm jacket was gone (where??) and they didn't bother looking in his bag where he had a warmer fleece hoodie. A nursery worker complained that he doesn't know how to stack his chair and doesn't wait for others before starting to eat. They were also not happy that he didn't say anything to a child who was taking something away from him and eventually just pushed him away. I had a conversation with the nursery manager who called to discuss today's nappy incident and we agreed she will look at his interaction with other kids next week and decide what they can do. I am really worried that if the nursery workers don't care that much about him before this conversation they will subtly keep neglecting my son as he obviously needs more input than they are prepared to provide. What do I do??? He doesn't say what he was up to in the nursery.