If your child seems happy but you are not would you move them?

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That is it in the title basically DD 2.6 been at new nursery for a month and whilst she seems happy enough I just cannot warm to the new place. Have tried to engage with the staff and have got nowhere - just seems a bit cold and clinical. So this being the case and I have somewhere new in mind would you move your child?

Personally no, not without a specific reason.

I would (and did). 1st nursery - children always seemed quite happy but communication was very poor - never found out what they'd been doing, what they'd had for lunch etc. Had to drop at the door and children were taken to the classrooms, wait at the door at collection time and child was returned to you. Everyone pleasant enough, but never what I'd call warm. When I asked how they'd got on, they'd say fine. No real "problem", just that I was never really convinced that it was as good as they'd made out it was when we looked round.

They were there for 8 months from 2 until 2 yrs and 8 months. Moved them and it couldn't have been more different. Fabulous nursery, just fab staff, couldn't do enough for parents/ children. Just built the transition around Christmas - finished at one nursery at the end of December, had a few weeks off, then started at new nursery. All went really well.

Is it the 1st nursery you've used? Did you like it when you went round? Do you know other parents who have used it for longer than you - if so, what do they say? Also do you know other parents of the other nursery? The only reason for saying that is that it might be a question of you getting used to leaving your child with a nursery (rather than a problem with the nursery if you see what I mean) and you'd have similar issues with another nursery? Having said that, I think gut instinct where your children are concerned shouldn't be ignored and if you're concerned its not a loving and nurturing environment for your child as I was, then move her.

Thanks for replies - similar to the last post that is what I can't get on board with. For the past few weeks I have been trying to ask specific questions to engage with sine of the staff but just get no proper feedback and very vague answers. Drop offs and pick ups seem clinical and there is just something missing from atmosphere. FWIW we have bitten bullet and decided to move her and I feel very relieved to be honest. Maybe I am being a bit PFB but I am going to go with my gut on this one.

Sorry Mandy 21 I didn't read all your post before replying! This is her second as her first nursery had to close do it was a decision we were forced into. Never had an issue with the first staff were amazing and always provided lots of detail a d anecdotes about her day. We did look round and it seemed great but I knew at the settling in sessions that something wasn't quite right. I know one other parent there but they plan on leaving soon to send their son to private pre school whereas dd will be there til she starts school.