Is it common to become upset at nursery after being settled?

[chezziejo]

Hi

Ds started nursery when he was about 18 months old he's 2.2 now. He went into baby unit and apart from 5 mins crying when left the first few weeks he has been fine and settled. They slowly phased him into the toddler unit, but this last few weeks he has been crying when left again. They assure me it only lasts 5 mins and then he's fine. They are brill with him and an get him to eat things that I can't, like veg . He's also a bit bit fractious when he gets home but that's always been the case and we put it down to being busy and a bit overwhelmed. He has pneumonia about 6 weeks ago but long since recovered and thats the only thing different. Is it normal for this to happen? It breaks my heart but we both have to work. He does two days a week by the way.

Thanks

DS was exactly the same. Might even be one of my threads about it around somewhere! HE loved the baby room (from 11 months), but the toddler room made him very clingy. HE was about 20 months, I think, when he went in.

I put it down to the fact that the women weren't quite as cuddly/nice; there were more toddlers running about; I was pregnant; he had more understanding that I was leaving him.

I changed to a playgroup/nursery whilst on mat leave - and he was the same there.

He's almost 3 now and back at his original nursery.

No tears.

Hi, it?s a horrid feeling isn't it!!
I would say it is completely normal, in my experience children seem to go through separation anxiety phases, i think it is about 6-9 months can be difficult and then again at about 2.5ish. I think it may be due to them beginning to think for themselves and knowing what they want and don't want to do. It will pass and its not usually an indication of anything untoward happening at the nursery. you may find it happens again when they get to around 4 years.
good luck

Thanks guys. I have faith in the nursery to be honest, they do give lots of cuddles and stuff to the kids there. Just hate these phases he seems to go through. He's a clingy lad at times anyway just hate to see him cry like thats it. These phases seem to take forever when your in the middle of them