15 month old not interested in coming home

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My 15 mo DD used to be pleased to see me when I picked her up from nursery these days she doesn't even notice and when I pick her up she wants to go back to the workers. It breaks my heart every time

Try to turn it into a positive for yourself: "I have chosen the perfect Nursery as my DD is happy and settled".

It doesn't mean that she loves you any less.

Maybe if you say something like "when we get home, we can play with (insert favourite toy name in this space) together" or "shall we look for some special things on the way home? Shall we have a treasure hunt ?" then you aren't just taking her away from what she is engrossed in, you are offering another positive to look forward to.

I repeat, it doesn't mean she loves the workers and not you. Your DD knows you love her and can see you for lots of her day, this is new and different.

Thanks it's just been a tough week she's been in 8-6 and so i only see her for 2 hours all day and now coupled with this

So this happens just when you need a big hug from her because of your tough week... At 15 months she's not going to have a ton of empathy!

Joking aside, do you have someone to offload some of the tough stuff onto, a DP/ BF in real life to chat things through with?

Have you remembered that there is a bank holiday this weekend (so will have more time with your DD) or do you have to work through?

No DP, I'm a LP. It's not that I need a hug from her just that the week I feel bad for abandoning her she acts like she doesnt know who I am any more.

If it is any consolation my DD used to say how marvellous her nursery workers were ALL THE TIME. Then when she started school all I heard was Mrs So and So said this, that and the other. I still have to remind her to give me a kiss at night time, answer to the name "daddy" even when he is in work and have to put up with both of my DC clamouring for his attention and completely blanking me as soon as he's home.

Children tend to be ungrateful and selfish, it is part of their job description...

You have not abandoned her and she is not punishing you for it either.

Have you just started a new job?

No I've been working since she was 9 months she always used to be happy to come home though big smiles and cuddles, now it's like 'oh you again'

I get this too with my 20 month old when picking her up from her CM.

Don't take it personally at all - she is just happy and settled and wants to continue playing with whatever she has at the moment. I have to wrestle her in the buggy but she's also very happy to play with me back home too, once I can get her away!

PS My mum says I was like that too!