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I'm terrified of leaving my son

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MarvellousYou · 21/05/2012 13:49

My son has just turned 3yo and he gets his free preschool hours soon. I haven't put his name down anywhere as I really don't want to leave him with anyone other than close family. I'm scared something terrible will happen and I won't be there for him e.g. He'll die and I won't be there to hold him. Sounds ridiculous, eh?

But I have held a 4 month old as they died after a horrific accident and his parents were dead next to him. And when I was on holiday with family (probably aged around 8 years old) I watched my nan try and save a little girl who was choking to death, dipping in and out of consciousness, vomiting blood. My nan did save her life but when we left for home no-one knew if she was ever going to recover fully. What I'm trying to say is that what I've experienced had scarred me so much I'm petrified something will happen to my DC and I feel so powerless, I just want to keep them close. I know that isn't possible and isn't fair on them but what on earth can I do? I'm aware that, rationally, they have to go to school but how do I get them there without cracking up? BTW they (both DS's) are confident and have no separation issues, i think they enjoy the freedom away from mummy! Advice would be appreciated, thank you xxxxx

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Hpbp · 21/05/2012 15:16

I am so glad Marvellous you started this thread. In the sense that I feel anxious as well for no reason.
And I have not gone through these very hard experiences you have witnessed.
I am just glad I am not alone. So thank you.

I managed to leave my son when he was 10 months old to a nursery I felt comfortable with. It took me a while to find it and it is as expensive as my monthly salary. But I managed to live with the guilt. He is now 3.5 and loves the nursery.

I am expecting the second now and I kept thinking : what if something happens to me ? what if my son has an accident on the way to/back from nursery ? what if the wind is very strong and the plane my husband and son are in goes through turbulences ? ....

As you said, we have to let them go, live their life but it is hard not to try to make the world a safe place and we just can't.

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