Can you help me feel better please???

[jobnockey]

Today is DS's 3rd full day at nursery (after a gap of nearly a week) he was so upset before he had to go saying he didn't want to go... then i had to leave him there distraught at me going - (he was the same last thurs and fri when i left him). he was fine during settling in which we did 3 days of...
once he settles down they've told me he's fine, he engages with the other children, joins in games and activities etc so i know he's not upset all day... its just so horrible and hard leaving him crying, i've never ever had to do that before. Awful. I stayed as long as i could this morning but had to leave eventually obviously...
Please tell me your DC were like this too and now they love it - I need to hear its going to get better!

Yep, mine both did this (DS2 did it this morning after a week away from nursery) and both have always been fine within 5 minutes of me leaving the nursery. DS1 loved nursery so much by the end of his time there that even after 8 months at school he still misses it. Don't worry - if he's not settled they'll call you, and as he gets older you'll be able to talk to him more about the routine / when mummy will pick him up etc. which will make it easier.
Deep breaths! It'll be fine. Have a and a sit down and don't make yourself feel guilty.

should've said he's 3 - so we have talked about it and he definitely knows i'm coming back - i suppose he's just scared of being left with 'strangers' when he's never had to before...
having as we speak.
thanks - just need some reassurance as keep thinking of his little face all upset

I feel for you! IME as a nursery worker it might be best to take him in take him to an activity he enjoys, get down to his level hug/kiss/i love you etc make sure a staff member he knows is with him to take over (they should be doing this anyway) say a confident goodbye and go! Sometimes a more prolonged departure is worse for both of you. Bit like ripping a plaster off slowly!

Ask them to phone you as soon as he calms down so your not left stressing. I used to do this a lot. I also used to take pics through the day of them having fun and show the parents when they picked up.

Good luck x

exactly buttery re pictures, ripping a plaster off etc

jobnockey as a nursery nurse myself i have seen parents like yourself and i let them know that their dc will be fine and honestly i have never seen a child cry alot longer than usual...a nursery nurse will distract him with activities, as soon as you have walked out the room...

i know it is so hard but he will be fine for you to make you feel better xxx

Thanks so much everyone for the support... its been really hard today - usually i'd be at work but had to be home today so its felt so strange him not being here and obviously been thinking about him a lot. I phoned nursery to see how he was doing and he was busy playing so he'd obviously calmed down... can't resist going to get him earlier than usual today but will wait till he's had his afternoon tea!

thanks again... i know it can only get easier...