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How long did it take your lo to settle at nursery

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greyriver · 06/02/2006 13:06

Hi would really appreciate your experiences when your lo started nursery....

dd's 1st day today, she cried on and off all morning and was whingy all morning, she hasnt eaten or had anything to drink, she is only going to do 2 mornings a week...

She is 12mo and never been leff with anyone (apart from close family) How quickly did your lo's settle? I know all children are different, I guess i am looking for some words of wisdom to make me feel better about having left her....

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Feistybird · 06/02/2006 13:11

She'll be fine - may take a couple of weeks tho, as she's only going in 2 mornings.

Did you stay with her today?

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greyriver · 06/02/2006 13:15

I am a wimp feistybird....dH took her, stayed for a few mins talking through her routine with nursery staff whilst DD wandered off and played with a little girl, DD even waved bye bye to dh and smiled. dreading friday already!

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Feistybird · 06/02/2006 13:17

Did the staff tell you she cried then?

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greyriver · 06/02/2006 13:19

yes, they said she was unsettled and cried on and off, but they kept settling her, they told me to let her take a toy from home with her next time so she has something familiar

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Feistybird · 06/02/2006 13:27

ok, well if they were able to keep settling her, then she will be fine.

Great that she let you dh go without any fuss - but just be prepared - she now she knows what to expect and may give you a hard time on friday . Just try and be upbeat, smiley and enthusiastic about it - children pick up on our emotions and if they think we are sad or uncertain it can affect them too.

She'll eat eventually - I think that's quite common at first.

Good luck!

RudyDudy · 06/02/2006 13:29

Hello greyriver - she will be fine but it will probably take time for her to make the adjustment. My DS was older (20mo) when he started three mornings a week. Although he cried for the first few weeks it only lasted the first few minutes immediately I'd gone and then he'd be fine. Within 3/4 weeks he was happily skipping in and needing to be reminded to say goodbye to me! He has a toy which is his comforter which he has with him the whole time at nursery which I definitely think helps him.

I know it's impossible but try not to worry too much. The change is bound to be an adjustment but that doesn't mean she won't make it and when she does she will love it. My DS does and he gets to do loads of things at nursery that he wouldn't otherwise. Try and focus on all the positive reasons you are sending her.

RudyDudy · 06/02/2006 13:31

Oh, also maybe ask when she cries. When DS first started he would cry everytime they changed activity - ie would cry when they went outside to play but would then cry when it was time to come in! As I say, not very good with change!! But if it is something like that then it is just a matter of time and them getting used to a different routine.

rarrie · 06/02/2006 23:42

My DD also went 2 mornings a week at first, and she started at the same ish age (a bit younger) but it took almost a month for her to be really happy. She was pretty upset the first couple of weeks, then it was tokenistic (she'd be distracted and would have finished whinging before I left the room!) and now, a year later, she actually asks to go to nursery at the weekends! It takes a while, but once they're settled, I've found they love it!

lellybel · 07/02/2006 09:37

Have to agree with rarrie on that one !! My dd started at 6 months full time took about 5 weeks to settle but asks to go at weekends and gets hysterical if shes ill and I suggest staying at home with mummy ! She's2.5 now and it has developed her beyond anything we expected.

lellybel · 07/02/2006 09:37

lellybel · 07/02/2006 09:38

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greyriver · 07/02/2006 10:31

I guess i have to stick with it then.......to add to my guilt though, she is usually a perfect sleeper at night, down at 7pm and up at 7.30 ish....last night for the 1st time in ages she woke up nearly every hour until 12midnight and screamed everytime i left the room which made me fee totally and utterly beside myself with guilt for having left her

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