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*Suddenly Upset*

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Mumbree · 26/01/2006 12:09

Here's a baffler (or maybe I'm just dumb). My three and a half year old has very happily been going to afternoon nursery for nearly a year. She has now just started the morning nursery at the local infant school and for the first two weeks carried on in her normal confident sunny way. This week however she has burst into tears every morning and when asked whats wrong she just says she doesnt like school and wants her mummy. She is still really happy about the afternoon nursery that she now just goes to once or twice a week. I've asked if there is a problem at the new nursery but they say this happens sometimes. It's just she has never been clingy or upset about going off to paly before and I'm at a loss as to what the real problem is here. Any ideas?

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Lacrimosa · 26/01/2006 12:13

I dont know what to say but ds was same at sarting school though! he was fine for first two weeks and then started crying, IMHO it was the realisation that this is a pretty permanant thing at first its a novelty, but in another two weeks he settled down . I did ask the teacher to keep an eye on him and she said thaat a few children always react this way. I hope this helps.I know its very hard but give her some time. x

Mumbree · 26/01/2006 15:41

Thanks Lacrimosa - I've had a chat with afternoon nursery supervisor who has suggested I organise a meeting with morning nursery - she seesm to think its quite unusual for a child experienced in being off for a few hours a day to suddenly get teary. I dunno but I have a feeling that they may be a bit too much "must prepare them for reception" orientated. I am all for good behaviour but maybe its the regimented style along with what you were saying about her realisation that this is a permanent thing. Today I left her there in tears and picked her up in tears (not me in tears!!) because when she saw me she ran to me so they took her back and made her wait until they said she could go. Fine, it's their way and they have to have rules, but they've seen how sad she's been and it hasn't really helped me prep her for tomorrow. Maybe I'm being too soft, but it didnt strike me as the most proactive thing to do to an already upset little girl.

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habitat · 26/01/2006 22:30

Hi Mumbree - I have had a similar experience with DS who is just three - he has been going to the same nursery since he was 6 months old on a part time basis - we have been looking at pre school for September and it seems to be the discussions we are having that have made him unsettled - tears before nursery and very clingy.

I had a bit of an altercation with nursery owner as I also think they are starting to "prepare" the children for pre school and are being a bit more strict which I don't agree with - I still think at this age they need encouragement rather than" discipline" but I am probably being too soft as well.

The tactic I am taking is to try to be really positive about nursery - concentrate on the present and not talk too much about the future. Not much help - sorry - I really hope DD settles down soon.

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