Lack of feeback from nursery

[bedubabe]

I may just be being very pfb here and please tell me if so!

DS (2.3) is in full time nursery in a language that is not his home language. I believe that he's also the most advanced child in his nursery class mainly, I would expect, because he's September born and so the oldest. He's certainly the only one potty trained and when DH (who does pickup) peeks into the class room, they are often using DS to lead the activities.

This is not an 'is my child a genius post' :)

My concern is that we're getting zero feedback on him. There is a book they fill in but that just tends to say things like 'DS really liked the puppets today'. I don't get anything back on his development, how he's doing generally and in particular, how the language is going.

DH is pretty convinced this is because there's nothing to report. He's said he's heard other parents being told about areas their children need to work on at home or being taken to one side about biting etc.

What would be normal to expect in these circumstances? Is it normal to get anything if the child is doing pretty well? I'm not sure what I want to hear to be honest (he's only 2, I don't need to hear he's learning calculus!).

Hi

I have two children both of whom have been through a private nursery (one still is).

I think the question here is do the nursery know/have you asked for a particular trype or frequency of feedback.

With my two i would always get what i would describe as 'mundane' feedback ie what /how much they had eaten, had they enjoyed anything particular, occasionally if there was something specific ie they had been a little off colour then i would make a point of asking about this but yes it would often have to come from me not them (not a problem in my opinion).

Do you have 'parents evenings/ session/consultations where your DC is? We have them twice a year at my DS's nursery and its a good opportunity to have a proper talk about specific issues, ie development, social skill etc bit to be honest I would probably just ask to speak with your childs keyworker (or equivalent) for a bit of feedback as soon as possible.

HTH

Thanks for the tips. I agree that they're not giving the info because we haven't told them we want it!

No parents evening unfortunately and pick up and drop off can be a bit hectic. Plus my French isn't good enough to have the conversation! It is completely mundane feedback we've been getting '[DS] ate well today' (well yes, he always eats well!).

Got DH to ask specifically re the language this afternoon and apparently the teacher looked shocked and basically said he was doing great and she wished all the children were like him. So maybe I wasn't being so pfb afterall