Separation anxiety

[chezziejo]

was just hoping someone could put my mind at rest really. Ds is 18 months and starting nursery in march due to changes where I work. He's going in 2 days a week. It's just that's he's only really used to my mum, me and dp. He can be a bit clingy sometimes but has settled into toddler group slowly but I'm there fir that. Nursery don't seem to concerned. He's going to have some trial sessions first. Are they used to dealing with this sort of thing? This is my first child and not used to this sort of thing.

Thanks.

oh hun, i think this is one of the hardest things a mother can go through. My daughter was the same, had only ever been with my mom or a very close friend and when she was 2 i decided to put her into a private nursery. They offered a few days where we could go together and play and she was fine, until her first day. She screamed the place down! But they where fab. Told me to go to work and they would contact me if there was any problems. Her first day i must have rang them 20 times but she where fine. The funny thing is after her screaming blue murder, for the first 5 min she didn't moan once, It was me that was a total mess!

I would imagine all nurserys have to deal with children, in this way and a lot of places have texting services know, so you could ask, if they use it, to contact you throughout the day just to put your mind at rest xx

Yeah think I'm going to
Be worse than him. Sort of dreading but hoping it will do him good with the socialising bit too.

Hiya
My 1yr old dd started nursery in November and she cries every time I take her (once a week for a morning). I always leave feeling so guilty and a couple of times have got upset over it. It was getting to the point that I dreaded taking her. I spoke to the nursery staff and they have reassured me that once I have left dd is fine and really enjoys herself. Still unsure though I went last week a little earlier than collection time and saw for myself that she was fine and having fun.
Talking to the staff and my friends it is quite common, so try not to worry if he does cry. The staff are well trained and they will know how to settle him.
They know how to tug on your heart strings, but I can assure you that your ds will be having lots of fun and making lots of new friends.

All the best

I feel reassurred reading the above - thank you for posting! I've just started a thread in going back to work re separation anxiety and feeling terrified about my DS going to nursery in April.

AS in for the same reasons as OP xx

Hiya all. Thanks for putting my mind at rest. Only time will tell i suppose but i still worry lol. All ive done since becoming a mummy is worry lol

My daughter is 2.5 yrs old - and she has just started nursery 3 pm's a week... First week she loved it - no problems saying goodbye, and didnt seem to bothered me picking her up again. I thought, wauw! This is amazing! BUT! Then after the first week, she started crying, just I mentioned nursery, and crying all the way to nursery. Staff says it is normal, that she is realizing that this is a weekly/daily thing now. And now she is very clingy, and says she just wants to be at home with me. But I have been told, it can take weeks to get toddlers ok with nurseries.... Hmm.. Not easy - but I think it all depends on, if your child is happy when you pick him/her up - then it's been a good day! My daughter is always happy when I pick her up - and she has done lots ;o)