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What would you do? Problem at nursery with DD wetting herself ...

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0015 · 01/11/2011 06:57

Hello! I could really do with some advice/thoughts on a situation at nursery. My DD who is three and a half goes to a nursery which is OK. I think she's happy there although I do have some reservations about some staff members who I just don't feel are that brilliant with kids basically. Anyway, yesterday when I picked up my DD, one staff member was waiting for me at the door where she told me that my DD had wet herself that afternoon and that she thought it was deliberate. If my DD had done that, it would be extremely out of character so in in itself, would be strange. I asked the staff member how she had dealt with it and initially she implied that my DD had been told off - and been told that Mummy would be very upset with her. I said that I didn't think it was appropriate for a 'first offence' so to speak, if it was deliberate, and that it may not have been. The staff member then backtracked. When I talked to my DD she said it was an accident. After the incident, my DD had been sent off to get changed on her own. When I got her home I realised that she still had her skirt on which was all wet, and that she'd put her knickers on but with two legs in one hole - ie very uncomfortable. She was very upset about the incident. As am I, now,

What would you do? I don't know how to react to this, it feels all wrong to me, but am I over-reacting? Thanks in advance!

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seeker · 01/11/2011 07:14

Does she need to go to nursery? Because this would be a deal breaker for me, sorry.

If she does, then ask for an urgentnmeeting with tell her what you've said here and see what she says. She should be grovelingly apologetic.

0015 · 01/11/2011 07:16

Thanks seeker. Yes, I have to work. I am seriously considering looking elsewhere, but we moved earlier this year so she's already had a big change, and I'm desperate to avoid another one. Also, all the nurseries around here have ridiculous waiting lists.

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seeker · 01/11/2011 08:44

Ok. Then you need to go and see the manager and let her know what's happened.nidoesn't matter anther she did itnonpurposenor by accident, she should still have been helped to get clean and dry. Or at least have someon there while she sorted hself out to make sure it was done properly. See what she says. If she's incredibly apologetic and promises it won't happen again, which she probably will, you can relax

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