Was my 2 years old "not to tell mummy" about something at nursery?

[Susana777]

Hi,

My two years old daughter said something very weird after we picked her up from nursery last. It was my husband who went to pick her up. Once in the car he offered her a banana as usual. She accepted it and straight away said "don't tell mummy".

My husband was very shocked with this response as she has NEVER said that before. She actually said it twice within those five minutes right after nursery. My husband was obviously very concerned when he heard it and told me straight away. I am wondering where did she hear it from? Did someone at the nursery tell her not to tell mummy something? Would you guys be concerned too if that happened with your child?

I'm probably going to speak to the principal about it next time I go to nursery, but I'll like to hear someone elses views on this. We are both very concerned about this as lots of things seem to be going through our minds as to why she would say something like that. So for us this is a very serious matter. Thanks for your time and input.

well DS is 3 and does come out with some random stuff
Last night we were eating he said "Excuse me", got down and started pullig his trousers down . When we asked he said "I'm just checking my willy"
can't hurt to ask but doin't assume the worst

It could be something and nothing, so please don't worry.

My son is a little older than yours at 3 but scared my husband silly the other day by telling him that he saw some ghosts. He described them in detail and of course my husband was pretty spooked because he couldn't believe that our little boy had ever heard of ghosts. TUrns out he had, of course, from reading Meg and Mog! So no ghosts, just an over-active imagination.

What I am saying to you is that another child could have said this to her, or, she might have picked it up from a book. Something like Charlie and Lola, perhaps?

But trust your instincts, and do mention it to nursery. Has anything else changed?

I can understand your worry, but I'd guess it's more likely to have come from one of the other children than anything else. But definitely raise it and you'll hopefully get a reassuring response from the principal.

Agree - speak to them but could she have had a book with that refrain in it read to her.

Cat in the Hat!

I'd try not to be too concerned until I'd heard what the nursery had to say.

Was your DH able to ask who she'd heard it from? Big difference if it was another child rather than a member of staff.

If the latter, it's potentially worrying. I can just see grounds for saying that if it's a "good" secret, like a Mothering Sunday card, but it's the wrong time of year and rather thin ice anyhow.

The nursery's atttitude and response will probablybe a good indicator for you. If you are left with any concerns at all, start seeking another one.

Hi!

Thanks for your comments. It could be that she heard it from another child, or from a book, and I so hope so. I'm going to keep an open mind about it, although my instinct tells me to find out exactly what happened as this is not right.

The thing is she is only two and three months, and at this stage she copies what she hears rather than randomly saying things. No other changes have taken place that could have caused her to say that, so she definitely heard it at the nursery, and my job is to find out from whom...wish me luck!

Hi Susana,

Is it possible she's heard it from your DH a while back, and associates that phrase with him? Maybe he picked her up one day and gave her a biscuit instead of a banana or something, with a cheeky 'don't tell mummy!'. I know my nephew would randomly come out with comments he'd not heard in ages because a situation reminded him of a previous one.

I'm sure you've nothing to worry about, but hope you sort it out. It's hard enough leaving them at nursery without niggling worries, isn't it?!

next time she says it, ask her 'why not?'

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Why Cath - why?