nursery worker called dd (20 months) spitefull WWYD?

[witchwithallthetrimmings]

At pick up on thursday one of the workers in dd's room told dp that dd was being very spitefull. I think her behaviour was out of order but I am really really to think that someone looking after children can attribute malice to someone so young. Another worker in the room overhead the conversation and asked dp if he wanted to make a complaint. The workers later on came up to me today and aplogised but I don't think she understands fully why we were upset and what she had done wrong. Shall we leave it there (I am happy that the others there would never say or think such a thing) or should i take it further

Is the worker a native English speaker?

She has apologised. She has probably learned from this experience.

Why take it further?
What would you achieve?

yes she is english, my only worry is that she really did not know what was wrong. Her apology did have the feel of the "customer is always right" about it.

Same thing happened with my DS, although no apology was requested or given.

I wasn't over the moon about the word being used to describe a 27 month old but the way she dealt with his behaviour (which was unacceptable) was fine. Aside from her use of this word on one occasion, I am completely happy with her.

If, like me, you are happy with everything other than the use of that word, what do you hope to achieve by 'taking it further'? I see no benefits at all for your DD, I'm afraid.

It's one of those words that is popular amongst particular generations and in particular parts of the country. I've certainly heard my mother's family (East End of London) refer to children's behaviour as 'spiteful'.

I agree that the important thing is how she and other staff responded to the behaviour and, yes, let it be.

Thanks rosebud that explains a lot