Imposters ??

[mummysweeangel]

Hi everyone

was just wondering if anybody has suspected that certain people on these mumsnet forums are not who they say they are ? Reason i am asking is because i had a couple of weird posts on a thread i started a few months ago and on checking under the "nicknames" search icon on the advanced search screen it turns out that a couple of these people have only ever made comments on my post- and absolutely nothing else.? Does this seem weird to any of you or i am i just being paranoid ? Its just that my thread was regarding a nursery my child attended that we had a terrible experience with and i am suspicious that some of the staff members have commented on my post pretending to be parents of children at their nursery ? It would be really really bad if this was the case.

You need to contact MNHQ about this. It could just be one person who has name changed, MNHQ can find this out.

thanks for that, its probably me just being paranoid but i just felt it strange that after one of the mums visited the nursery i was talking about and told her she knew about my complaint all of a sudden posts appeared on my thread and a couple of them didnt sit well with me.

Thankyou for you getting back to me

It's OK. Have you emailed MNHQ? You can also contact them via the report on this thread. I think they can find out whether all of these posts are coming from one internet address so can see if it's the same person. It sounds very stressful for you, I hope you are OK.

Why would that be really, really bad? Seems like a sensible idea.

To belledechocolatefluffybunny- No i havent contacted the MNHQ yet. Think i am better just staying off that thread altogether as its just getting me really angry.

In general on a thread like that it's more likely that the posters are genuine mumsnetters who have changed names specifically to post on the thread, given that it gives out information about who they are and where they live that they don't want linking to their usual usernames.

The particular poster you are referring to does seem a bit suspicious to me, though.

Have contacted MNHQ now anyone to advise i that found a couple of the last posts on that thread a bit cheeky and taking things too personal. At the end of the day i am not telling people to remove their children from the nursery or not to put their children in it, i am only advising that me personally, wouldnt recommend it after the experience i had.

I thought those posts were v suspicious and if I was you I would also have felt unsettled by it.

I thought your comments were very restrained given your experience. You were very fair and balanced.

I too have had a very poor experience with a nursery (in the same city in fact but a completely different place). I wish so much I had done something like you and put in a formal complaint to the CC.

Try not to be upset by the thread, however unsettling it is. You have done the right thing in getting the CC involved, and also in writing on the thread where someone else asked about the nursery and you offered your experience.

It must have been very stressful to have gone through this experience at the nursery. Please don't let this upset you further.

Thankyou MrsCurly,

I know, i am not going to let it upset me any longer. It was just the last couple of posts by Henrik888 that annoyed me by he/she implying i had been looking for a problem and had selective memory, and then the comment they made about it being interesting that i was wanting my fees back etc. It was a really horrible time that we went through and to have ocnfirmation that my son wasnt being treated the way he should have been was very upsetting for us as he was only a baby and it made me feel terrible for leaving him in a nursery- i felt to blame and still wish i had done things differently but i didnt and i left him there longer than i should have and we paid the price for it , in more ways than one.

Anyway... life goes on and fingers crossed they will operate a more organised ship now so that nobody else goes through the same issues.

Thanks again Mrscurly

CMD83 said:
"...I am shocked...not many positive...He experiences fab activities that I could never do at home!..."

Weefifi said:
"...quite shocked at the negative comments...excellent and often messy activites that i wouldnt dream of doing at home."

Both posters talk about similar themes, but the way they speak is similar but there are differences in spelling.

Henrik888 certainly sounds like a manager to me. "Four seasons nursery care has been outstanding...". I'm not sure many people apart from management would ever use the companies full name rather than the nursery's. "...and parents will only have to visit to see it us nothing like you describe". The way the word 'parents' is used sounds like a member of staff talking.

TiggyD- thats excactly what i thought, and those comments you have quoted are the very ones i was suspicious of.

Just didnt seem like parents speak, well not to me anyway and just found it odd that it was only after jilljill32's post in August advising she had met with the manager of the nursery and advised her she knew about my issues etc, then all of a sudden there was those posts about how excellent the nursery was etc and my original post was away back in Feb. Do you know what i mean ?

Oh my God listen to me, i sound like some wannabe detective. lol. Seriously though, if i didnt laugh i would cry. The whole things gotten on my last nerve purely because of everything we have gone through because of that nursery.

I have just found a few minutes to check out the chat here again and am amazed at the comments made. What exactly does a parent sound like? I am a very busy, full time working mum of three who has very little spare time. I thought I would like to join this to share some experiences and found the chat on the nursery. Given that I have a child in this nursery I felt compelled to defend it as i think it is brill. I am offended that my authenticity has been brought into question. Maybe some people sound similar because we are all being positive about the nursery.

Hi weefifi , i am really really sorry and didnt mean to offend anyone, i was just suspcious, more so with HENRIK888 comments as they were very personal and how these posts came completely out of the blue only after one of the mums brought up what she had seen on this website with the nursery manager etc- the original posts were away back in February. I have contacted mumsnet HQ anyway and advised them of my concerns and i was relieved that it wasnt only me who found those posts suspicious.

As i have said before , its really good theres positive comments about the nursery to show that not all of the children were treated as badly as my son and hopefully they are ALL genuine positive posts but its equally as important to bring up bad experiences - and of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

No harm done.