Hello, I’m at my wits’ end.
My mum who is 81 is in serious cognitive decline and has been for about 5 years. She doesn’t have a diagnosis because she refuses to go to the doctor and she goes berserk if anyone mentions it. To be honest, we don’t any more because it’s just too upsetting for her and for anyone who might be in the room at the time.
She’s probably too far gone for any medication now anyway.
She also has a problem with her knee which is seriously affecting her mobility and she won’t wear glasses despite being very short sighted.
My Dad is 85 and in very good health, physically and cognitively.
The issue is the condition of their house. It is cluttered, messy and dirty and I can’t even begin to describe the state of the bathroom….😩. They can’t keep on top of the washing and now both look unkempt and scruffy.
This was never them in the past and it’s so sad to see.
I have plenty of time on my hands and really want to help with the housework, ironing etc but my Mum maintains that she can do it herself when she clearly can’t. Whenever I offer, she gets really stroppy with me and we end up falling out. My Dad would accept the help but he daren’t say it because she just goes mad at him too!
I’m at a complete loss at how to change things. They would probably be entitled to all sorts of benefits but wouldn’t dream of claiming anything and just won’t accept any kind of help with anything.
Does anyone have any experience of anything like this? I’m so down about it.