When does patenting start to feel real?

[Ray24924]

A little bit of background, I've been with my partner for 16 years and we spent the last 7 or 8 years TTC with no luck. We were on the IVF list but then naturally fell pregnant completely out the blue last January and had our baby boy Sept 2024.

The question I have is when does it eventually feel real haha! I know this might sound strange to some people but I think because it took us such a long time to concieve, it still doesn't feel like he's mine to keep. I can't imagine him not being a baby and I feel like someone's going to come one day and take him away, almost like it's just been a babysitting job.

I absolutely love him to bits and he is my world and I think I feel everything a mother should feel but it's almost like he's too good to be true! Did anyone else have this feeling and when did it go away if so lol 😆

I think everyone goes through that fear of losing their child, I think it's natural to make you protect them. My DH would sit and cry sometimes for fear that something would happen to our DS!

You will get used to the feeling and it does lessen as they get older.

Congratulations on your baby btw.

I have teens and I often think "Oh my, I can't believe I am the one responsible for these - I don't feel "qualified" but that might just be me...?

When does it start to feel real? Probably when they hit the toddler years and start to have their own opinions....