Am I being unreasonable

[Lee198874]

So basically my partner got back from a night out to which I then find out that her and her friends were bought shots from a guy who was also in a group, then I find out that one of the men in the group was someone that a couple of weeks ago can up in conversation to which my partner basically had said in a way that he was attractive. I got a little mad walk out slammed a door and and made it clear I wasn’t happy about the situation, but now I’ve apologised and tried to explain why it bothered me and I’m being told I’m over the top. Granted It is stupid and I wish I never asked but I feel like I have a slight reason to get angry at the spare of the moment. I wasn’t aggressive or violent in and anyway if anything more of a brat. Thanks in advance

You’ve been a dick.

You’re surely joking

You really are new here

Hi firstly welcome to mumsnet!

Secondly, yes you are incredibly unreasonable.

It's never nice to discover that your partner finds someone else attractive, even if it was a throw away comment. We're only human and bound to feel insecure. It isn't exactly going to make someone's day or bolster their self esteem. Especially if the person they find attractive is someone down the pub (attainable) and not a famous movie star. I don't think anyone in a committed relationship would have to explain why it "bothered" them. Slamming the door however is aggression whichever way you want to package it.

What did you expect her to do? Go stand in a corner on her own?

Has she ever given you reason to not trust her? As if she has I can understand why you would be anxious, but at the same time if she hasn’t done anything to warrant you not trusting her in a situation like that, then you need to get a grip. I’m guessing she was honest with you about the situation as well which is how you know about it?

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