Is it just me? Am I in the wrong?

[itzme08]

So I gave birth 5 days ago and had to have an emergency c section. since being home my husband was amazing the first couple of days and it has come to the weekend and he wants to do jack all, barely spends time with little one unless I ask. Is this normal? I feel really lonely like it’s just me doing everything, the cleaning the steriliser pretty much all the night feeds getting up early nearly all the nappies. The only thing he seems to be doing is cooking dinner.

I understand sometimes men can get postpartum and feel not attached to their baby for the first few month. But this feels so unfair on me. I’m still bleeding I’m trying to heal quite a serious surgery, my boob constantly leaking (not helping the fact my baby doesn’t want to latch) and the tiredness I know is a given but I feel totally wiped out. I just feel so alone.

I love this baby with all my heart and would do anything for him but I just don’t want to feel alone doing it.

Bless you. I totally understand.

Men are just a different breed. I would advise talking to him about it, be open and honest. Don't do the whole 'you do nothing' because that'll rile him, just explain you need him to do x,y and z because you feel as though you're doing it all and it's too much.

I'm just worried it will turn into a huge argument. I'm so emotional and I know full well I will just start crying and be one big mess 😅 think I just need to find the right time to sit down and have that chat. I don't even want much just maybe the hoovering and me not having to ask can you tidy the room while I do the rest, as when I ask it just seems like a huge ask I'm asking him which annoys me more 😅

If it makes you feel any better my daughter is 6 months and I still feel like that 🤣 it's like everything's a battle. His favourite quote is "so you're saying I don't do enough". No! I'm asking you for help. They just don't get it, because they've never had to get it!

Well @Laserbeam24 he isn't doing enough! And it's not 'help', it's doing his fair share.
OP if you are interested keep trying with the breastfeeding - my son didn't properly latch on for several days, and my daughter was in NICU for four days so I didn't even get a chance to try til fifth day.
And just ease off on the housekeeping- it will still be there when you feel able, or hopefully your husband will step up. And I bled for weeks - wasn't expecting that (I must have missed that but in antenatal class).