potty training madness...need help please!
ohnonotyetplease · 29/12/2021 19:37
My first thread and I really need some advice!
Dd (2.9) and I embarked on potty training at the beginning of October and it seemed to go really initially - she 'got the idea' in 2 days and seemed able to ask quite happily to be taken to the toilet or to use her potty. Then 8 weeks in, she suddenly stopped asking me when she needed a wee , and started having accidents left, right and centre. Still happily asks if she needs a poo, but I have to remind her and take her alllll the time if I want to avoid constant puddles and changes of clothing.
I assumed she was ready for learning the new skill because she'd really shown an interest in it, and took to it quite enthusiastically, and was dry during the day after 2 days.... I just can't work out what's happened... she can hold on, but refuses to ask or take herself, and just doesn't seem motivated at all to stay dry or avoid accidents. I am baffled and worried.
My older sisters (full of parenting lore to generously bestow upon me) say I mustn't put her back in pull-ups, absolutely mustn't, but it's getting ridiculous. Tried doing rewards and stickers and all of that, and do my utmost to avoid getting cross.
All advice very gratefully accepted!
ArchbishopOfBanterbury · 29/12/2021 22:11
Don't give up. Just change her without too much fuss. Regressions happen. Stopping playing to get changed is enough of a motivator - the loo is quicker!
My son is about the same age. April 2019. He's has a few regressions when life has been disrupted somehow, his sister arriving, his granny leaving, teeth coming through, a bad cold. I'd say 8 weeks in means this regression is fairly recent, right? With Christmas and all the changes that happen, my little boy also had a bit of a blip the last couple of weeks, but he's had a good few days since.
OnceuponaRainbow18 · 30/12/2021 09:36
See I would go back to nappies and try again in a month or two
SocksForceFive · 30/12/2021 09:45
Agree that it sounds like a regression. We did the Oh Crap method (the general idea, not read the book). Whenever there's been a regression we go back to basics - i.e. no pants. That seems to remind them that they're not wearing a nappy and get us back on track. Try her with no pants and see how she gets on.
AppleButterfly · 30/12/2021 09:58
Make sure she cleans herself up after, so it is more effort to clean herself up and change bottoms rather than to have just used potty/ toilet to begin with! I wouldn't go back to nappies.
FudgeSundae · 30/12/2021 10:04
We found after a week or so the novelty wore off and we had to do some bribing. Ask her if she needs a wee, make her sit on the loo and tell her she can have a chocolate drop or whatever if she goes. I know some are very against it but it got us through that phase.
FudgeSundae · 30/12/2021 10:05
And also it’s unreasonable to expect her to self initiate constantly, she will need reminders when absorbed playing.
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