Unwanted messages

[Scaredycat259]

I really need some help, I'm new on here, please be mindful of the fact I made a massive mistake and will be eternally regretful for it.

A guy at work told me he fancied me and one thing led to another and we slept together, he was VERY possessive and quickly became obsessed with me, constant messages, asking me to come see him at home all the time, now at the beginning I told him I did not want anything serious and only wanted to be friends ( hence the mistake) he was OK with this and said he understood and respected that.
However due to the obsessive behaviour and the drunk messaging every weekend which was not just drunk talk might I add, it was quite worrying and sometimes threatening, he also made comments about a person at work who is Pakistani, referring to him as "pak* bastard" on more than one occasion, I told him that I would no longer be coming to see him and that I wanted to just remain friends. That he scares me and that it is no good for either of us.
I have repeatedly asked him when he is drunk to stop messaging me and leave me alone. However it just carries on, I turn my notifications off until the morning and sometimes there are 100 ish messages.
In the morning he will apologise and say he doesn't know where it all comes from.
About 6 weeks ago he went too far one night and I blocked him ( something he told me to do if he was going too far)
The next morning he came into work late and hungover shouting "what you blocked me for! "
His supervisor took him to one side to ask what was up with his attitude, he then took me to one side and asked what was going on, he was not happy and wanted to send him home.
I really don't want my personal business bandied around at work, it's f*ing humiliating.
I had a chat with him and told him he needs to leave me be, I'm sorry if he got hurt but he's hurting me too with the messages, he said he just wanted to talk to me 😒
Since then the messages are still happening every weekend, despite me reiterating repeatedly that I only want to be friends, he continues to harrass me and I'm terrified of blocking him for fear of him barging into work and shouting at me again.
Other than leaving my job of my years or throwing myself off the nearest bridge I really don't know what to do.
I have screenshot of some of the messages but can't see anyway to put them on here.

Report him to the police. Honestly.

I second going to the police, he's harassing you

Definitely go to the police with this. It's a crime and they will stop it.

Police. And talk to your boss.

Whether you like it or not you have a creepy stalker, your work need to know.

Report to the police as this is clear harassment now.

Ask HR at work what support they can put in place to safeguard you as you are scared and being harassed.

They have a duty of care and also won't want this to bite them in the arse either so have an interest in safeguarding you both morally and selfishly.

My god no wonder you’re scared he sound viscous!! You definitely need to block him again and if he starts ranting just tell him (in an equally loud voice) “I asked you politely to stop harassing me so I had no choice but to block you” Let others hear and don’t be ashamed, sorry or embarrassed by how this has come about. You’re not the first and certainly won’t be the last person to have a work ‘fling’. He’s preying on your vulnerability and if he sees you’re squirming from him he will continue to grind you down as he has the upper hand. This stops now!!

Definitely tell HR or your supervisor as PP’s have said. Also call 101 and at least log it with them. Do you have close colleagues that you can also share with them what’s going on?