Friends disappearing after having a baby?

[LifewithNZC]

I was just wondering if anyone else had this problem, my DD is 8 months old, I work part time and I've also started YouTube, so yes my time is a bit stretched but it's like slowly friends that you once had that were close are dropping off, is this the norm?

Well yes, if you’re busier than you were before of course you have less time to see friends so you see less of them.

Being a new mum I do feel pretty lonely at times, my husband does what he can to help with our little one but she doesn't rely on him as much as she does on me, I guess it would just be nice to make more friends who actually understand the emotions you go through.

Do the friends have children?

In what way dropping off, do they stop replying to you, decline to meet up etc? Do you suggest plans? And yes also whether they have kids as they might not want to hang out with a baby every time unfortunately!

Ok glad this has normalised things, yes they have children, some teenagers, some have young children and others have a baby. Yes I do suggest to meet up and some friends don't respond.

Having little kids does really change your lifestyle and how compatible you are with some people. Some friends will dissappear completely and others may come back when you're more compatible again

I think maybe the ones with younger children are probably just tired.

When my girls were young I didn't want to plan anything or see anyone, unless I happened to be getting out that day and met people on the spur of the moment at the park etc.

Even if I planned a kid free mums night out it would take A LOT to actually want to go as I just got so tired!!

Your best bet is to make friends with people who have no kids but love kids!!!
The type that can just pop in the car and come over.

In my experience the love is still there but we just can't be fucked 😭

What does 'started YouTube' mean?

Do you try and meet your friends without your DC?

Your husband shouldn't be "helping" you.
It's his baby too. He needs to be a parent.

Does he "help" you with housework too?