How can I tell this ‘friend’ that I don’t want to see her again. When I had my daughter 22 years ago I had quite bad post natal depression. I found my daughter very hard work as a toddler. I have a close relationship with my daughter now. I’ve known this friend for over 20 years and see her once or twice a year. She always brings into the conversation about how naughty my daughter was as a young child and how much I used to struggle. I have no idea why she brings this up. I don’t know whether it’s a control thing but she won’t let me forget it. She makes me feel like a shit mother and I always leave her annoyed and promising myself that I won’t contact her again. I’ve managed to avoid her this year but I know she’ll be in touch before Christmas. I really want to just tell her to not contact me again but she’s quite confrontational and I’m dreading a scene. Please advise.