What I have found on one week on Mumsnet

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There are some truly amazing people on here. Kind, informative, non judgmental, supportive, hilarious is the majority,

Unfortunately have already come across some threads which are hostile, toxic, hateful.
I love respectful debates, hearing other peoples opinions. Unfortunately thus far I have only encountered people who appear to relish in belittling people, and generally some horrid stereotypical 'Smug bossy know it all mums' from the school playground.

There is always room for kindness. I am as guilty as anyone else of retaliating in anger. But wow...some of this stuff is worse than the daily mail comments section! On any other website alot of people would have been banned already.

Its also really sad how blunt some people are in telling people, for example, that they have had a miscarriage. I was a bit shocked by that!
So...so far I think I am only going to stick to the threads that are relevant to why I joined, and more lighthearted ones for now!

Did anyone else have an opinion on mumsnet when they joined - has it changed at all?

Some people can be really mean on here, but I found MN so supportive when I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks.

Flatwhite32 I am so glad you found comfort and support!

I've felt the same, I love reading here but sometimes it's just awful. I'm only new, haven't made a post yet (bit scared) so just kind of lurking. Being kind is literally the easiest thing to do, can't understand why more don't see that!

Just to say i am not shocked by people saying they have had a miscarriage, but by absolute strangers diagnosing others with having one over a message board.....

Yes I've noticed too. Some people on here are just nasty. AIBU are probably the worst. Sorry for your loss Flatwhite32.

It is a real eye opener as to how mean some people can be esp when it comes to the small stuff , I have seen some poser where people are asking for advice after sad / scary situations and all others do is complain that they can not spell and correct their grammar and spelling.

I have been on here over 10 years. The community has grown and unfortunately there is a lot more trolling these days.
However, there are some wonderful people offering comfort, advice and support.
There are so many boards to choose from. I would say don't post on AIBU unless you are actively looking for an argument.
Explore, read for a while before posting.
It is a great place IMO. I wish MN had been available when my children were small.

I've been here a while.
My tip would be avoid AIBU, hide it for the first month.
It weeds out 90% of the unpleasant posts.

The thing is that most of the nasty people you come across on here wouldn’t say anything to your face. They aren’t that brave.
It’s hard and it’s very frustrating but you kind of have to ignore them. It doesn’t get you anywhere retaliating as I’ve found out. You just get deeper into the whole but....there are some really nice people on here who even if they don’t agree with you, won’t try to make you feel like a right prick.

*hole lol

My 1st post was on AIBU and I definitely regretted it. I was shocked at the bluntness of some of the replies and also at how many people completely ignored my aibu question and just picked things out of the background info I gave to have a go at me with. I had to get it deleted, they did say they don't usually delete posts so I will be careful about what/if I post again.

my daughter also reckons some of the posters on here can be really rude and hostile but i haven't noticed it. we probably do look at different threads as she is pregnant and i'm more interested in the chat and aibu threads. i find it really irritating to read a thread where everyone responds with similar responses.. what is the point in that? and when you post a view from a different perspective you get jumped on... there are quite a lot of sheep on here...

Cut throat on here sometimes

But fab advice about random stuff

Amazing funny bunch for the majority

They don't call it prosecco stormfront for nothing.