Kids dad wants me to pay him to have them some of the school holidays

[Danicooper08]

Gobsmaked if this what's expected now days

What a prince.
Why ever did you leave him?

What a prick. I suppose you could send packed lunches?

WTF
Has he always been tight & deluded?

Geez, what a dick!

OK, well, if I am to be generous....if he was paying a very generous amount of maintenance, and they live with you FT, and he is left with VERY little money, (so, he's living in a bedsit and can't afford a car type of thing) than maybe ...just maybe he'd be reasonable to ask you for some money for treats/outings etc
But I'm guessing this isn't the case

Well it depends doesn’t it, if he’s paying you maintenance and is a bit skint and you want him to have them for the whole of August it’s a bit different to him expecting money for having them on two wednesdays throughout the holidays.

From the look of those messages you have a nice relationship and are happy to discuss things in a civil way, which is nice :)

You both need to stop saying LOL so much!

He does seem like a prick but in a devils advocate way, are you both low income, is he stretched to meet bills and does he pay CM based on the amount of time you have them compared to him?

If he's got no money then he may be justified in saying he can't afford to feed them??

Why all the "lol"s? Is it like a passive aggressive thing you say to each other?!

Not currently paying maintenance used to work full time when csa took him to court to get monies owed he then decided he had a bad back and wants to go on the sick and now has to pay 7 pound a week for three kids and doesn't pay that 😱

Currently see dds once during the week and every other Saturday

I really hope he was “joking”

Just tell him he can use the £7 a week maintenance he's not been paying you to buy extra food.

Omg what an outstanding father. He thinks the sole financial responsibility of his children should lie with you. Thankfully you are not with him anymore.

I’d send a short text along the lines of how funny that joke was, and of course no decent parent would be expecting to be paid to spend time with their own kids. After all that would make them a complete twat, and then tell him the dates you would prefer.

Oh and if he says he was serious you can reply - lol you are so funny. Now what dates are you having the kids?

If that's the case id buy some food to send with them. Only because they'll probably not get much decent good if he's on sickness benefits

Agree with PP “OK - keep the 7 quid”

I’m fuming on your behalf 🤬🤬 Don’t you dare pay him a penny! They are his responsibility too and he needs to budget for paying for these sorts of things. Maybe he could have them the last 2 or 3 weeks of the holidays to give him a chance to save up (if you’re feeling generous!)

And that’s just one of the reasons you’re no longer with him I’d imagine.

Great that you can have them! Weeks x & y work?

I take my previous comment back. What a dick

Yes tell him to use the £7 he doesn’t pay every week to buy some bread, pasta and sauce.

@Kungfupanda67 wouldn't say good relationship to be Fair i think his abit of a joke. But dds 9 and 8 love him too bits and have some relationship with him Ds 11 don't acknowledge his as he seen what a twat dad has been 😱

What benefits is he getting? I would tell him to shove it, my friend earns more in benefits than I do with 2 jobs 🤣

@Tiredtessy uc and disability I think all his rent paid living in a flat he rents of his dad with his gf and a kid

I would remind him that it is his children you are both talking about and not asking him to look after some random kids from the play ground.