Boyfriend left me and our daughter

[Lei3]

4 weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me due to fighting almost daily. We spent the first few weeks doing family things together and him giving me mixed signals. After a huge fight last week, he says he is done, I should move on and he is much happier. He says there is zero chance for us to work on our family as I am manipulative and have shows him no love and affection for years so it’s too late for me to try now. Very limited contact this past week at all, only with regard to our daughter. Anyone ever have their significant other change their mind and come home? He’s been living at his moms for the past four weeks

I think you need to listen to what hes saying.
Its been 4 weeks. It sounds as if your relationship was not a happy one OP.

Try looking at a future without him and start moving on. It will be for the best.

Thank you for responding! that's what people have been saying , listen to what he's saying. His actions are as if he wants to be together still, that's what's so confusing. Actions speak louder than words, right? any advice moving on from daughters father when you have to see them all the time? im finding that so difficult

Hi actions seem to be that you've been fighting daily and he's moved to live somewhere else. This isn't a man who wants to be with you or who you should waste time on.

Plan some nice things with your DD and have a few nights in with your friends when she's in bed.

Just keep things civil with him. It's going to be tough but you can do it

Yes, you are right. I guess its b/c the first few weeks, he still came home everyday, we did family outings and were still being intimate. Plus, he was telling me we could work on it and build back up. the last week was that we fought and he started saying zero chance again. seems to change with whether he's mad or not :/

When I split with exdh we went through a strange few weeks of carrying on as normal

It was as if the last 12 years of family life could not be undone as easily as having the conversation to split up.
It didnt last long and we soon found a new routine and stopped trying to be the 24/7 family we once were.

You both need to sit down and work out fair contact arrangements. You have split up and are no longer in a relationship. The line is clearly drawn. Stepping over it just makes this harder on everyone.

cosmiccanary- aside from hanging with friends and the usual advice, how did you move on? I mean from him when you still had to see him constantly?

I reminded myself why we split up. I told myself that each time we saw each other it would be easier the next time and it was.
Eventually after about 2 months we were starting to lead our own lives. It was difficult still is as we still have a great affection for each other but we are no longer a couple.
It does mean that we co-parent well as we accept we split up.

gosh, so sad but I now its part of life. thank your for hearing me out. she is my first and ohly child so my first time splitting with a child involved. helps to hear from people who have been there and are doing just fine now.