Work problem

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Looking for some advice: tad long winded sorry.

I have been working with the same company for over 10years and loved my role. However it was physically and mentally demanding and I was struggling with nightshifts and raising my daughter so decided to apply for a promotion role and was successful.

I now work in an office rather than front line and even thought it is just as mentally demanding I am being treated like an outcast. I know I have to learn the paperwork side of this role but the guy who was to be my mentor doesn't want to work with me. For the first 3 weeks he ignored me completely and didn't say 1 word to me. It has been 3 months now and I have found out he has been bitching about me behind my back saying I'm balshy and rude! He hasn't worked 1 day with me how would he come to this conclusion??? and I know you can't like everyone but he hasn't even tried to get to know me. He has been in this department for years and has his little followers and I know whenever I leave the room he is slagging me off to them and other offices ( friends have told me what he saying) Last week I sat at my desk and him and his 3 followers never said a word to me!!!.... a full week, 🤨🤨🤨 even when I tried to join the conversation.

It is getting me down for the first time in 10 years I am seriously thinking of going off sick as I hate going in. It's like being back at primary school and I'm 42.... and he is nearly 50!!!

I don't know how to deal with this as I don't want to be singled out more for going to our supervisor but I feel so alone and scared it will only get worse.

I do have empathy for you. A time that is so wonderful to get a promotion and bettering yourself shouldn’t be met with such crap.

I hope I don’t sound blunt but i don’t think it’s the time to be a wall flower. If it were me I would pull him up. I wouldn’t have any qualms about it. I would tell him and his sheep quite simply that you’re a part of the team, and that they’re going to have to get used to it. I would also make it clear that you’re not thereto put up with their BS, that if they don’t want to help you, you will get it elsewhere.

Make it clear that whilst you maybe new to that department, you’ve been around for ten years and their behaviour isnt ok. Take empowerment from the fact that your not like them, and to be honest I’m sure you wouldn’t want to bother much with them after how they’ve treated you. Make it clear to them that your happy to work as a team and get along, but you won’t take their crap.

Get your confident pants on, you’ve got this!!

Make sure you're in a Union too and talk to them. They'll have loads of experience of this sort of shit.

I know your right I just need to stand up to them but I don't want to be the trouble maker!. I have worked hard to be there and I couldn't care less what he thinks of me it's the bitching I can't stand. If I hear anymore I will challenge him tell him to keep his opinions to himself.

Thanks I just needed someone to remind me I have as much right to this job as they have.....Just hard when you new, but f@@k them.

Thanks for the advice!

They know how they’ve been treating you so I wouldn’t think anyone would think your a trouble maker.

Maybe tell him that you know what he says behind your back, and you don’t care for it, and you’re not going to put up with him acting in that way towards you.

You totally have every right and you’ve done so well to get there!! Don’t let them take your enjoyment out of it and take your confidence away. You maybe new to the department but it doesn’t mean you have to take their crap. Power play them 💪