Coming home from the hospital. Am I unreasonable?
KateFTM · 12/01/2019 14:25
The first half of my pregnancy was made completely stressful my my in-laws. They created arguments between my partner and me, his mother actually turned up at my doctors appointment and walked in demanding that I be put on antidepressants because I was hormonal. She rang me constantly and at 17 weeks I decided to block her number and as a result became much more relaxed.
My partner was initially supportive but recently has been under pressure from his mother for us to go and visit. I reluctantly agreed to make him happy but have made it clear I don’t want her turning up at our house and calling me all the time. There needs to be boundaries.
Now our baby is due in 2 weeks and because neither of us drive I have been planning to go home from hospital in a taxi to which he has said absolutely not and that his parents will drive us and baby home. I am a first time mum and live hundreds of miles away from my family and feel so strongly that I don’t want stressful people around me when I am in labour or just after. I have never said that his family cannot see the baby I just don’t want them around me when I have just give birth. Am I being unreasonable?
PixieDust92 · 12/01/2019 20:09
No definitely not! She sounds like a control freak. The way she acts and behaves I’d off told her to F off!! I feel sorry for you and you should put your foot down and stand by what you want to do x
JiltedJohnsJulie · 13/01/2019 12:08
You need to tell your DH that this is really important to you. If he chooses to leave the hospital with his DM, it won't be with you or the baby and he'll need to start packing his bags now.
NicolaStart · 13/01/2019 17:34
Both of them?
Is there room in their car for 4 adults and a baby seat?
A baby seat must go in a seat where the airbag has been disabled.
For me keeping MIL away from the hospital during labour and after the birth would be more important than who drove me home.
Do not let her know when you are in labour!
Polly99 · 13/01/2019 17:37
I don’t think you are unreasonable. I felt pretty vulnerable after giving birth and found it hard enough when my not batshit in laws can’t to visit. Has your DH said why he doesn’t want to take a taxi?
AppleBlossomArseCheeks · 13/01/2019 17:47
Definetely a taxi op, she sounds weirdly controlling and completely nuts
ILoveMaxiBondi · 13/01/2019 17:51
Refuse this OP. Don’t even entertain it. When I had my first baby I lived with my parents and they along with my sister brought me home from hospital. I was still in pain from the stitches and was having the afterbirth cramps and hadn’t slept in days. I was in really bad mood and I couldn’t even cope with the chit chat between my parents and sister. I just wanted to go and sleep.
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