What would you do with a secret you couldn't tell anyone?

[TornApart75]

I have a secret. I have a loving family, a husband and four children. I have carried the secret around for several years. Most of the time I can put it out of my mind. When I think about it, it drives me nuts.
How would you cope?
Thanks

Tell mumsnet. We don't kniw you so can't tell anyone

We all have secrets. Just forget them if you can. If you really can’t, pay a professional to hear your confessional.

Whose secret is it? If you are somebody's confidant you have to keep it.

OP, do you know who let the dogs out? Is that's your secret?! This made me laugh so much 😁

I was told a secret a week ago that is making me look at someone in a completely different light.

It's quite difficult knowing what I now know TBH. The person it concerns is no longer who I thought they were.

I'm still trying to get my head around it.

This is going to be one of those threads where OP teases us then buggers off! Basically Boswell but with less posts!

@yawning801- nah- thread deleted because it's outing 😂😂😂

Is it your secret or someone else's secret?

Yawning - oh god Boswell. Those are hours one of us will ever get back.

None not one

Would seeing a private therapist be helpful? I think talking to somebody impartial and non-judgmental would be helpful in figuring out how you actually feel about keeping thus secret. When you never talk about something it can feel much bigger and more significant- just talking about it with a therapist may ease the tension.

Did the Boswell one ever reach a conclusion?

Don't turn this one into sodding Boswell too.

Nooooo, no more Boswell.

If your secret hasn't broken the law just put it out of your mind and live for the present.

@Yearinyearout- OP allegedly worked it out and wouldn't tell anyone because that wasn't the point.....🙄

What was the Boswell thread? I think I might have missed that one

Ohmygod- naughty naughty.

Forget about it. It’s easy to do. Just think it through very deeply then let it go. It’s almost like your mind reaches its saturation point and you never think about it again.

Don't even go there with Boswell it was as irritating as watchmen

Haha I honestly never saw it. Was it "one of those threads"?

One of those that shall never be spoken of again? Like "cancel the
cheque"

It was a joke that no one got and couldn't work out

Dig a hole and whisper it into the ground, like the fairy tale?

It depends whether you want to talk about the implications, or whether you'll just feel better not being the only one who knows.

Wow.
I posted and waited and no one responded so I thought I had started the thread in the wrong place. I actually felt glad because I should never have asked the question in the first place (extreme guilt) and so the resounding silence was good and I went and hid.
No. I can tell no one. No one at all. I will write it down and burn it. That’s a good start.
Thanks for your replies.

Also - with regards to anonymous. I have posted on and off for years with different names - about a whole host of topics, several I wouldn’t want coming back to me, because they were rather personal. Then out of the blue I got a message from Mumsnet that someone wanted to nominate me for a gift. I suddenly felt that everyone knew who I was.... It felt very personal. I still have no idea who it was and why....

It depends what the secret is because no one can advise on an unknown.

If it was an affair, forget it. Don't tell anyone.
An abortion. Ditto.
Made a hideous mistake at work but no serious outcome. Forget it

Basically if it's a secret which would hurt others and have an adverse outcome, do not disclose. Your momentary relief at a guilty secret shared would be far outweighed by the shitload of grief that would follow, not just to you but all the innocent bystanders.

You did what you did. Live with it and don't inflict it on others.