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Court and justice for Mums and children

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lionessandcub1 · 10/12/2018 06:20

Hi I am a really upset am ddistraught Mum after a long court battle over my son, who’s father walked out 2 years ago and was with another woman.... then basically caused upset since the day he left, never really had a relationship with our son, I have just come out of court distraught. The judge seemed to be totally bias to him, and I need any help and advice I can get to help turn this round for my poor son who is beside himself and doesn’t want to spend long period with his dad and daddy is forcing it! Help !!

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SnuggyBuggy · 10/12/2018 06:42

How old is your son?

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lionessandcub1 · 10/12/2018 07:28

HEs only 7 😔

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Fuzzywig · 10/12/2018 07:33

I had the same feeling when we went to the family court. I felt is was biased towards my ex no matter what he had done in the past to me and my kids. Did you refuse to arrange any time with father and son or has your ex gone straight to court to force access?

I don’t think you can turn it around once the court has made a decision.

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NeverTwerkNaked · 10/12/2018 07:47

If it helps, my son is 8 and they have said he is old enough now for his views to count (slightly different circumstances, he had a great relationship with his dad then his dad did something dangerous and lied about it and now my son doesn’t want to see him).

Are they going to get the rebuilding of the relationship to go at a pace that suits your son at least?

I do find the family court is very biased towards men at present

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lionessandcub1 · 10/12/2018 10:23

In answer to both points , it’s all a nightnare , my son has told cafcass lots of things dad does and upsets him and his fiancé who I’ve never met in 2 years !
He’s beside himself and doesn’t want to go- the judge said he needs to see him Fridays to Monday’s and he really doesn’t want to go and I’m meant to force him! It’s lawful and bias and I can’t believe what’s happening.

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Fuzzywig · 10/12/2018 10:42

Carcass didn’t even speak to my kids.

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SnuggyBuggy · 10/12/2018 10:45

I think the father's right to access usually takes priority over what the child wants. Do t agree but that seems to be how it works

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lionessandcub1 · 10/12/2018 10:57

It’s awful and I really need a strong barrister. The cafcass said plenty in her report that was negative about the father and nynson doesn’t want to spend more time with him and he’s been left alone loads of times etc etc and basically the cafcass lady turned round and didn’t say any of it to the judge !

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HeartbrokenMUM22 · 20/07/2019 22:29

I have a child arrangements order giving my children's dad access, I took him to court so that he would see the children but he's now taken them, refused to give them back, told lies to social services, changed schools with them, filled their heads with kids and cut me off completely from even talking to them. It's not worth going back to court because he'll do what he wants anyway ..I need help but he'll use the against me, I'm going under mentally and emotionally I'm broken. my only hope is that my children will want to see me in 8 years when they are of enough to be out of his control but it's so hard holding on each day