Newbie needs advice 😊

[Tash2411]

Hi all, I am new here. I have my 12 weeks scan tomorrow and super excited and nervous. I need some advice about telling my family ... earlier this year I argued with my parents so our relationship is a bit tense. They live abroad so I can’t tell them face to face, it will have to be a message. Also, my sister is 14 weeks pregnant through IVF. She didn’t take my news well, called me selfish and wanted an apology. I just want my baby to be loved and treated as my sisters will be, no matter what has happened this year. Feeling very nervous about telling them and not sure what to say!

The best advice I can give is that you can't control what other people think or feel. Only your parents are responsible for how they will feel about your baby. Don't fall into the trap of thinking if only you can find the right way to tell them, then they will love your baby. That makes you responsible for their feelings. And only they are responsible for that.

Tell them you are pregnant. Tell them you are happy. The rest is up to them.

I hope you have other people in your life who will be happy for you OP.

Congratulations on this exciting new part of your life.

ps, you might get more of a response if you move this post to a pregnancy section of the site.

Hi advice needed for 9 week old who fights sleep! It’s driving me mad. I’ve been trying to him get him to nap for the past hour, he starts going to sleep then wakes again and I’m back to ssshhhing and rocking the pram.
I try to catch what I think are his tired signs - staring into space, flailing arms & legs, getting wingey (as these are the only ones I notice) or if I don’t notice any and it’s getting to be an hour awake I try to put him down in his pram.
Yesterday he wouldn’t sleep in his pram whilst out and about shopping and I think it’s because there was too much to look at so he ended up awake for 4 hours. He napped for 30 mins in the car then was awake again and had the most ulmighty meltdown and it took me 20 mins of rocking and ssshhhing for him to nod off in my arms.
He doesn’t likening swaddled and white noise only seems to help at night.
At night he sleeps 4-5 hours from 6.30pm/7pm normally but then after this from around midnight he’s thrashing about in his cot, noisy and wakeful until my partner takes him downstairs at 5am so I can get some sleep.
He just seems to be a really alert baby wanting to look at everything so worried he is just too stimulated to sleep.
Sorry for the long post any advice welcome!!