Step dad no longer wants to see my son

[laurajayne28]

I have 2 kids by 2 dad's and unfortunately had to split from my fiance last month. After raising my youngest from 2 years old (He calls him Daddy Scott), my ex has decided he no longer wants to see him and will only see the son we have together. My eldest doesn't deal with change well and is missing him like mad, how can I break to him that he won't be seeing him anymore?? Xx

How old is your elder boy?

He's 6 and has learning difficulties and separation anxiety xx

I was in a similar position op. Threw exh out and he didn't even bother to come say goodbye to my dc after 4 years with them. Unfortunately they had to go cold turkey, ds cried every night for 13 weeks. Crushed me tbh. Lots of cuddles and reassurance, we had recently for kittens - maybe a distraction like plan a trip /get a pet /something to focus on positively.
Ds was 3 and didn't understand at all.
Now a happy 10yo life is good again.
Sorry you are having a crappy time op.

I'm so glad you had a happy outcome eventually. It's so much for a child to process so young and I'm not sure how he'll cope with his brother going and him being left behind when he doesn't understand why he can't go too

What a hurtful thing for him to want to do. I hope he changes his mind when he sees how it's upsetting him

In time maybe your ex will want both boys, entertaining 1 dc is harder than 2 imo! Find an activity you can do together when your other ds is away. Could you offer to walk a dog? Swimming? Treat at a cafe? It is tough, some men have no clue how their actions affect dc.

Never easy when you split from someone and it not easy for your kids. I know you probably already tried talking to your ex but maybe give it another go explain how the child is feeling and tell him it's unfair that the other child should get hurt just because you are no longer together. Tell him the little one Dosent understand and that to him he is still his daddy. If your ex won't make it a special time with your other child and hopefully yiur ex will come round.

Op, I advise you to change your username as it possibly identifies you.

Also, you can ask MNHQ to move this to the relationships board if you want a bigger response.

Poor kid. Can you explain it to your ex from his sons point of view. That he will struggle to understand why his older brother can't go too and will want him around.

Thank you for all your advice guys, really appreciated xx